Have you ever set aside every single insecurity you've been fighting for months and barely mustered the strength and courage to look someone in the eye and tell them what you need from them? Swallowing every ounce of pride you thought you had, every bit of self independence and self sufficiency to allow yourself to be vulnerable to a person that matters to you to be completely disregarded and ignored?
Did you also feel your heart shatter into a million irreparable pieces? What about your self esteem? Maybe your pride? It sounds dramatic but it's not. When that person looks you in your face and ignores what you're telling them or tells you it's not a big deal, they're telling you that it's not important. It took literally everything left I had in me to even discuss it and you think it's not important?
That's what heartbreak feels like. I think it takes a special kind of vulnerability to be honest about your needs with someone whether it be your friend, partner, parent, etc. and an attention to communication that a lot of people are lacking. I think this concept of confronting your needs also requires a certain level of trust between you and the person this exchange is happening between. (Don't let my use of the word exchange fool you, this interaction should NEVER be transactional.)
If someone tells you something, you need to listen to it. If you care about that person don't write it off as them being insecure, clingy, dramatic, needy, etc. IF you care you need to listen before you lose them.
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A book of thoughts.
NonfiksiI started this as a way to release all of my emotions, but feel free.
