A Journal of a Broken Personality

I'm learning what it means to be a TRUE Friend

I'm learning, I'm learning what it means to be a TRUE Friend

We all have friends everywhere, those we made in school, church, work or even at random on social media. Although we have many there are only a certain amount we let into our private matters. They become our best friends.

Friendship is powerful. Your character speaks the loudest when you are with your friends, The closer you are to a particular person the more real you can be, somehow your character begins to be molded either good or bad, you find common grounds with them, like if you don't like an individual you expect that your enemy becomes theirs as well.

I have always valued my friends, especially those who became very close to me, I was that kind of friend who was a" ride or die kind". God forbid one to talk about my friend because I considered their battles as mine and when it comes to relationships and you broke up or hurt them be prepared for World War 3. If a friend was attacked automatically their enemy became my enemy and vice versa

My friends were very important to me, I would make sure I was a shoulder to cry on when things went rough, I'd make sure to encourage them when life knocked them down. I could also admit to be not being a good friend, I am guilty of being one of those who practiced peer pressure. Especially when someone was not right, I would make sure to take them out for a drink to forget all their trouble now I know that was not the right way.

The Godly friendship was new to me; I came from a place that when you value a friend you would do anything for them even LIE for them I mean they could get away with murder and I wouldn't rat them out. Correction was not really something that I did with my friends of course you would have interventions and real talks but the ultimate goal in my friendship is come as you are don't judge and have each other's backs no matter what.

I learnt a valuable lesson from David and Jonathan's friendship. We always say blood is thicker than water and that Family will always rule in the end however this was not the case when Saul sought to have David's Life. Jonathan could have easily chosen to take his fathers side and help hunt David down but Jonathan valuing David's friendship and knowing his father was in the wrong decided to stand for the right thing even though it could cost his relationship with his father.

THAT IS THE TRUE MEANING OF FRIENDSHIP, 

To be as honest as possible even though there is a possibility that the relationship can be jeopardized. Galatians 6:2 "bear each other's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ", it's a serious matter whereby it's more than just coffee dates and over the phone catch ups. It is standing up for the truth even if it hurts, it is about integrity. It is about accountability, standing in the gap in prayer and fasting for them; it's about calling them up and checking on them, listening to their griefs. It's about, correcting them with love when you see them straying away from the truth.

I had a hard time in letting my worldly friends go when I started being serious with Christ, it was difficult because we did so many years of life together and they became my family. In the early days of Walking with Christ I had to make a choice and for the first few months I would just avoid them or say that I'm busy but in actual fact I was afraid of putting myself in a situation where my old lifestyle could return.

I've heard many times from God to let them go, not because Jesus doesn't love them but that they were my weakness. If I had to pursue a life of holiness, then I'd have to give up my worldly ways especially in the early stages it's wise to keep a distance. It was hard I did allow myself to be around them every now and then but I kept seeing myself returning to my vomit. 

Proverbs 12:24 says one should choose this friends carefully because the way of the wicked leads them astray. It's not because they are evil, Jesus died for them too but making a decision to walk worthy of God requires a sacrifice.

These days I hardly catch up with them, indeed I do miss them but I praise God for new friends and the ability to have a new found love of praying for them. The most important gift I can ever give them is my prayer. There are days when I see their pictures at a get together that I feel left out and I miss them terribly but I do know that my God can save them and one day he will. I don't doubt that.

I'm learning, I'm learning what it means to be a TRUE Friend