when we're younger, we build very high standards for how our life partner should be. we grow older, we fall in love, we realize that this person doesn't fulfill some of our proudly thought out standards, and we still don't think for a second we would've wanted anyone else to fall in love with. this person is our new standard, our only standard, and we decide we'd choose this same person over and over and over again if we have to. then comes that cruel, horrible moment when we realize they go against our most deeply held value, one we cannot, for anyone, compromise. that becomes it. we realize we have to start trying to hate them for it in order to fall out of love. we wait. we wait to see if it works. does it? how sooner or later? i sure hope so.
