The LGBTQ+ Handbook

Coming Out

What a terrifying experience. It's not even a one-time thing, you constantly need to tell people that you aren't straight.

Time to destroy certain myths about coming out.

You only need to come out once.

Man, I wish! No, unless you are famous and tell international television that you are are gay, or whatever you are, coming out of the closet is not a one-time thing. It's a constant struggle. Say you come out to your friends, cool! What about your parents? Classmates? Coworkers? Different times, different situations.

When you come out, you have to come out all the way.

Alright, who thought up of this one? This is not true at all, not even for a second. You can come out to only certain people if you want, you don't have to always spread the gay. Do whatever you want!

Your family and friends will hate you, no matter what.

Lies. If your friends are real friends, they won't care too much about it. Also, despite contrary belief, a lot of people are becoming more open-minded. I'm not saying that everyone will always accept you, but everyone won't hate you either. Just do you, and remember that you are real.

Coming out is a great feeling, especially if the feedback you get is positive. You get such a rush, almost like adrenaline, but better. It's like acceptance and joy is coursing through your veins, making you feel invincible.

You can finally show your true self. That is a wonderful feeling, and the rush doesn't really completely go away.

When I came out to everyone in my family, it was weird. I came out online, since I was scared to tell everyone in person.

I felt such a rush of pure joy, it was wonderful. Then the feedback came rushing in. All I saw was acceptance. It was wonderful.

Now, not everyone has a family that will accept them, and I completely understand that. I'm here to tell you that you don't have to be pressured into doing anything you don't want to, and that I'm here for you. I'm sure someone in your life is also there for you.

Wonders.

If you want to help me with anything, or if you have an idea that you want me to do, just message me! Or comment, that's cool too. Constructive criticism is always appreciated, of course!