The LGBTQ+ Handbook

Helping People, Part 7!

Any more of these and I won't be able to keep count. But it's nice. Advice is nice, right? Do you like this? I like feedback, you know?

Hey i need advice I'm bi and I have always acted more male than my brother who is a really feminine guy and now I acted seriously girly but sometimes it feels like I'm over compensating. I don't know what for but sometimes I'm super happy being really girly then others I'm just down and feeling low. It doesn't help that my dad is anti - lgbtq+ which is sad as I was always his little girl and now I'm not even okay with him hugging me so I can't come out to my family but all my friends are super supportive. I'm just really scared of being myself and I feel really down quite a lot of the time due to not understanding myself.

My advice, you ask? Well, it's pretty simple.

Start becoming the person you want to be. It doesn't have to be this big, huge makeover-type deal. Slow and steady, start becoming who you want to be. It will ease your family and you into a new normal. This advice can be used with anything, really.

I would also start to hint to your family about your bisexualness. Be subtle at first, then get more and more daring. They'll start to think, and maybe even question you. Then, come out when you feel safe.

OR you could wait until you move out of the house to come out and do all you want to do. That's the safest route, but not always the best. If you hiding your sexuality from your family starts to bother you, tell them. Chances are, they'll accept you.

People think that it's extremely common for families to disown their children because they're gay, or whatever, and that's not true. Yes, it does happen, especially in religious homes. Any kind of religion, whether it be Christianity or Judaism or Islamic. Unless the people are open-minded, chances are that you might be in a bad spot. 

Now, with that being said, look at all of the progress we've made, with accepting one another. Same-sex marriage is legal in the States finally, Pride keeps growing more and more with each year, and more and more people are becoming less and less hateful towards the LGBTQ+ community. Maybe some of that has metaphorically touched some parents' hearts, and made them more accepting just because they are having to.

That was probably a tangent, so sorry about that. I hope I kind of helped someone. And you know the drill by now, comment and good feels and all that.