The LGBTQ+ Handbook

Helping People, Number Five!

Woah, spamming with love! Or something like that! I feel really bad because most of these people were from the beginning of the year, and I haven't made it public until now. I'm really sorry everyone that has messaged me and has been waiting for a chapter.

Okay, so lately I've been feeling a lot of pressure to come out. I'm bisexual and I think one of my closest friends (who came out to me as demisexual) will accept me, but I'm not sure about anyone else. My dad doesn't believe in transgender people are what they are. He says that they have some kind of mental illness. Even though I'm not transgender (I'm a perfectly binary female) I still worry that he won't accept me. There's this one guy in my grade who is always calling me gay (he's totally onto me) but he says it in a derogatory way. I'm definitely not coming out to him, but how do stop him from finding out? Also there's this girl who recently came out as pansexual (last year she came out as bisexual) and people were really mean about it. I didn't see even one person support her. Although, there were a few people who helped explain what pansexual meant. I feel the need to come out to someone, but I don't know who, how, or when.

Alright! So, you want to come out. I say, if you want to come out, do it. I would come out to your best friend first, since she will accept you. If she knows what demisexual means, chances are that she understands bisexuality and stuff.

As for your father, that's a different story. I can actually relate to this pretty well, because my father doesn't accept trans people. However, despite him and his thoughts towards trans people, he's open to gay and bi people.

Gender is a complex and weird thing. It's been brought to the public just recently, kind of. A lot of people didn't know that transgender people existed until Caitlyn Jenner came out.

So, even though they are being ignorant, don't try to force the information onto them. Treat it almost like religion, or spiritualism or whatever. I don't force my religion onto you, you don't force it onto me unless one of us asks for information on the other.

But, usually coming out is pretty good, especially nowadays with more and more people becoming educated about the LGBTQ+ community.

Now, for the coming out. If you come out to people at school, chances are that they'll tell other people. That's just what's going to happen. So the homophobe, he'll eventually know. I had a group of homophobes, just don't pay attention to them. Blame it on their parents and their teachings. There isn't much anyone can do.