The LGBTQ+ Handbook

Helping People, Number Four!

I feel like a terrible person because I haven't had much time at all to help everyone, or even do the research needed for a normal update. But I'm back! So let's get to it!

I'm pansexual, and I've come out to most of my friends, but I'm just extremely confused about my gender. at first I thought I was genderfluid, so I could switch gender whenever I felt like it, but lately I'm just feeling like nothing. I told my best friend, the only person I'd ever confide in until I was sure. she said that probably makes me non binary, since I'm genderfluid and agender. but I really don't feel like something different. also, (this gets even more confusing) I feel like I could be transgender. right now I'm a cis female, but I feel like I love being a girl, physically that is. and my personality's more male than female. I'm just really confused. thanks for your help.

When I first read this, I had to read it again. It's a mess of gender, and I can see how that would confuse anyone.

Now, I think that this person is still genderfluid. You can be any gender when you are genderfluid, and you can even have periods of time when you aren't any gender at all. It just depends on the person, really.

This situation also brings up a topic that I feel like a lot of people have struggles with. Should you transition into the opposite sex? And I can help with that.

I'll make myself as an example to make things a little easier. Not everything I say will be true.

I was born a female. I have lived all of my life so far as a female. But, I'm thinking about my gender a lot, and I think that my mind is much more masculine than it is feminine.

This is important. Just because you think more like the opposite sex does not mean that you are transgender.

Many people don't understand that. Me, personally, I think very much like a man. I can relate much more to men than I can females, but I know that I am still a female. I like the body that I have, and I don't need to transition, because I my gender is not male.

Being transgender isn't exactly a mindset, or an emotion. It's something else entirely. It's your gender. It's how your brain is hardwired. So, unless you feel like the only way to truly be happy with your body involves transitioning, I wouldn't suggest it. It's a long road of hormones, and awkward phases, and it's a real struggle.

I don't know if I came across how I wanted to, but I do hope this helps. If you have anything to add, please comment.