LIFE.. D. E. C. O. D. E. D

MIND THAT TONGUE

Words spoken have to be chosen very carefully. This is my personal experience. I was a very bold person before. Not fearing anything or anybody. I used to speak my mind and didn't care a damn of what the opposite person felt 😎. Sometimes what I spoke was good so no one bothered. Like I said it was just sometimes. In some cases I spoke cold and rude stuff to someone who considered me special 😥. Be it my close friends or my parents. They used to get hurt but they knew me. I was stubborn as a rock and never cared that they actually felt hurt. 😤
As I grew older and I realized the value of my parents and my close friends. I tried to apologize for my behavior but that was too late. Some of my friends didn't care about me as much as they used to and I felt a distance from my parents though that was not the case. Parents never distance themselves but I guess it was to teach me and I accepted my fault. 😞Sometimes unless something doesn't happen to you personally then you don't change. It was a revolutionary moment for me. 🤔😌
I started analyzing things and being patient to reply. Sometimes I was spoken to very rudely 😡. I could do it my way of replying on their faces but I stopped and held back my anger. I realized it would just make things worst. I am not saying that it I never get angry. I do but I make sure that I don't remove it on anyone who considers me close because you never know what can hurt them. 👼🏻
And it's not just that. Words can have a negative positive effect on you too. An example is if you are a parent or if you want to encourage someone. You can just go ahead and complement them saying you have done a good job and you reward them. But there is a pattern which is followed. Eventually that performance graph will come down? You might ask me why? 🤔 Well those goals were just short term. There was nothing interesting. Instead if you complement the process that what you are doing is good then that's a steady flow of encouragement. 😎👍🏻
Even in relationships. One should always positively encourage rather than just saying things to each other. It will not only make your relation stronger but it will boost up individual confidence too. 😁

"If sorry was sufficient to solve things then there would not be wars. What you speak can never be taken back so think before you act or speak. Analyzing is the key. That is the reason God has blessed us with 2 ears and only 1 mouth." 👂🏻🗣

Love,
❤️ NiKi