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Signs You're Dating An Insecure Woman

Signs You're Dating An Insecure Woman

Insecurity is the root of a lot of issues in relationships. You've undoubtedly heard it said before that solid relationships are built on trust.

But here's the thing about insecurity: It can be cured. So if you really like this girl, you should try to help her build up her self-esteem, and there's a good chance that will fix the problem. Encourage her to have a life of her own. Examine your own behavior and see if you're contributing to the issue. We're all works in progress, and sometimes we need some help to become the best people we can be.

So if she demonstrates any of the signs below, don't bail right away. Help her out. It might be the best thing you ever did. Either that, or you'll end up in a living hell. Life is full of gambles.

1. Jealousy
- It's flattering when your woman is jealous. It's proof that she cares about you. A little is fine and perfectly normal, but you should be able to tell when she's moving into bunny-boiler territory.

2. She Thinks Every Other Woman Is Out To Steal You Away From Her
- Like I mentioned, it's flattering when someone thinks you're the shit, but don't believe the hype. You're not that special.

3. She Inserts Herself Into Every Conversation You Have With A Woman
- Most of us can tell when we're being flirted with, but an insecure woman assumes every conversation you have with someone of the opposite sex is going to lead to you dumping her for an upgrade, so she always swoops in to intervene.

4. She Accuses You Of Ogling Every Attractive Woman You See
- This is difficult to defend against, because after all, you are a man. We're always checking women out, but unless you're a complete douche, you're probably not drooling with your eyes popping out of your head, and that's basically what she's accusing you of.

5. She Needs To Know Your Exact Whereabouts At All Times
- And God help you if you're not where you said you're going to be.

6. She Looks Through Your Phone
- She's more aware of your texts and missed calls than you are.

7. She Goes Through Your Internet Search History
- If she finds any porn or — oh, shit — that you've visited a dating site (even if it was just a pop-up ad), you are screwed.

8. She's Constantly Seeking Validation
- "Do you love me?" "Do you think I'm pretty?" "I'm smart, right?" Like you're going to answer "no" to any of these questions, anyway. Solicited compliments have no real value, but she feeds on them.

9. Guilt Trips
- If you're doing something without her, she'll probably "let" you, but you're going to hear about how she feels left out.

10. She Compliments Herself
- When she reminds you of how lucky you are to have her, she's really telling you the opposite.

11. She Drives Wedges Between Your Friends And Family
- She wants to be the only person in your life, so she methodically attempts to alienate you from everyone you care about.

12. She's Bossy And Domineering
- This is just an attempt to control the relationship, and by extension, you. She's making all the decisions in an effort to limit your options.

13. She's Clingy
-We all want to feel needed by our partners, but we also want some degree of independence. Not her. When she's in a relationship, there is no "you" or "I," only "we" and "us."

14. She Freaks Out If You Don't Answer A Text
- Sometimes we're too busy to answer right away, and then we forget. She'll make you feel like you just left your baby in the grocery store.

15. She Pops In
- If she shows up at your home, your school or guy's night out, it's not because she wanted to give you a pleasant surprise. It's because she expected to catch you doing something you shouldn't.

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