Coming Out 101

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I had my first crush on a guy at 11 years old. Then my second crush on a girl at 13. I denied the girl crush, just passing it as a 'phase' or some girl crush thing that straight people get at any time.Then I had a whole bunch of other girl crushes. I was in denial the whole time until my 5th crush on a girl. I was 15 at this time. I just stopped myself and decided it. I'm not straight. These aren't phases. And I can't keep denying it.So I then knew I was bi. I like guys, but I like girls a lot more. Either way, I like both genders.I told my best friend first straight away, then gradually told my group of friends. That then expanded to telling my casual friends. The more I did it, the more comfortable I felt to be open.

The only people who I need to come out to is my parents. I don't want to. My dad is judgemental and my mum is super religious. Luckily my dad isn't as religious as her and has a more casual and relaxed approach. Still, he's judgemental.

I don't know their views on homosexuality because we've never talked about it or even mentioned it once in our family before. The problem is that my mum even bans halloween from us, because it's too 'evil' which Christian people should avoid. If she hates halloween because of religion, what would she think about LGBT stuff? yeah... I'm not telling them anytime soonEverything has been fine so far except for one small thing. There is this one girl who used to be my friend, but she's incredibly homophobic. When I told her I was bi, she was accepting of me. But whenever she sees a gay couple (usually girls) being only slightly touchy or close to one another, she gags, judges them, and says a lot of homophobic stuff. All in front of me. And she assumes I won't care. The reason I'm not friends with her anymore is because of some stuff that happened between me and my group of friends (nothing to do with sexuality at all). But still, I hate the fact that I told her. She's disgusting. I'm not even offended or hurt, I'm disgusted.Other than that, everything has been fine. The only mission I have is coming out to my parents, but that can wait.