Coming Out 101

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Before I start my coming out story let me tell you how I identify. I am a panromantic homosexual. 

I used to think that at an early age you already knew if you were in the LGBTQ+  community because a good amount of people I knew/know who are LGBTQ+ knew they were from a young age. I first heard the gay when I was young and I didn't think much of it, and I did the same thing when I heard the word lesbian. But everything changed when middle school came around.

In middle school I started thinking about if I was going to get married and according to the internet, marriage means sex. So I thought, "I like boys but penis's are gross so vaginas all the way." By thinking this I thought I was bi.

Skip to around the summer to 8th grade. Me and my friends (at the time, now it's my friends and my girlfriend) were walking around at the orchard and out of the blue I give my friend (who is currently my girlfriend) a hug.

"People are gonna think we're lesbians," she said.

"Yeah you're right."

That's when she asked, "Are you lesbian?"

"No."

"Are you bi?"

"Yes?"

"HOLY CRAP!!" screamed all my friends. That answer not only lead to them screaming, but they also hugged me. But I thought when girls hugged each other, they were lesbians, but I may be wrong.

Fast forward about 7 months when I am sitting in my room when I decided to tell someone other than my friends about my sexuality. I told my sister on this day via text which for me was more awkward then telling her in person.

Me: There is something I need to tell you

Sister: What?

Me: But it would be to awkward if I told you face to face

Sister: Oh, well what

Me: That quiz that you made me take earlier today

Sister: What about it

Me: There was a question, 'Which gender do you prefer to date?'

Sister: Are you gay?

Me: And I didn't click 'Boys'

Sister: Or bi

Me: I clicked 'Either'

Sister: So you're bi? Or pan? Or what are you

Me: Pan

Sister: Okay, you could of told me face to face lol. That doesn't make me think any different of you dummy. I thought I was bi in 6th grade but idk now

Me: I haven't told mom yet

Sister: I don't think you should, you might not really be pan, you just think you are. wait about a year to think about it ok? You don't want to tell her something that isn't true or you aren't sure about. Unless you are completely sure.

I am sure but I don't plan on telling my mom really anytime soon unless my mom confronts me about it. 

Recently I realised I was wrong. I thought I was pansexual, but I was panromantic.

That's my story, but since I am 13 (during the moment I was writing this) I am still young and stupid, there is still a whole life of mistakes ahead of me.