Coming Out 101

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So the first time I was introduce to the LGBTQIA+ community is when my friend came out as bisexual. At first, I didn't know what that mean and I admit, I wasn't 100% accepting. I just found that concept confusing but the more I learned about the rainbow, the more I saw it for the beautiful thing it wasSkip forwards a couple of years when I had a crush on my friend who came out as bi (who at the time, was the same gender as me)At first I told myself "No! You can't like the same gender. I know they do but I'm supposed to be that nice friend who is straight and cis and supports the community, not be a part of it myself. After I got over that crush, I labeled it as a phase. Maybe it was just because we were becoming better friend. At first I settled for that, but then I started having crushes on other people my same gender (along with people of the opposite gender) So my first thought was: "well maybe I'm bi?" So I internally labeled myself that. I was experimenting with labels until I came across the label "demisexual/romantic" What I saw what it meant, it kind of spoke to me. So I looked back on ALL my crushes and sure enough, all of them had one thing in common: we were really close friends and I trusted them with my life. So now I have labeled myself demiromatic (because I'm still not sure about the sexual part yet) but who knows, things in life change and maybe my labels will as well. But until then, I am demiromantic (also a demigod but whatever)I am also agender (without gender)Since I was young I always thought: I am the gender I was assigned at birth. End of storyBoy was I wrong. All my friends are cisgender so I just figured: so was I. But around maybe...fourth grade, I was confused about what made people feel like a girl and feel like a boy. So I was just like: meh. I'll settle it out soon enough. So skip a few years and I questioned my gender again. Now that I had a better understanding of genders I was so I was open to me not fitting in with the binary social norms. I talked to my friend (who came out as a demigirl) and she said: here, borrow my book. The book was called "The abc's of LGBT" and it was REALLY helpful. When I read about agender I immediately went like:THIS IS ME!!!I waited a couple of weeks to be sure I was right and now I am fully sure of me being agender. I'm not open to my parents about any of this and I will tell them.....just not right knowThank you guys for reading my story and I hope you all find yourselves someday