Coming Out 101

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First things first, I'm lesbian. Not bi, lesbian.I've always had this kind of voice In the back of my mind that told me that I didn't like boys In that way, and it only really came to realization when I was 12.The first person I ever came out to was my best friend. She had just told me she was bi, and I just went 'oh my god, I'm a lesbian!' I didn't mean to do that, it kind of just slipped out. I don't regret it though, I'd rather she knew then she didn't know, if that makes sense.I have social anxiety, so it makes it really hard to talk to anyone about anything, especially my family, so coming out to my mum was really hard. I did it over text, because I found it too awkward to tell her in person.I sent to her "Mum, I think I have known something for a while now and it has only just made sense to me... I am a lesbian." When she finally texted me back, she sent the laughing emoji. She thought that it was my older brother, texting her off my phone. It took a lot of persuading to prove to her that I was me, and I wasn't joking.Finally, she accepted it and told me she loves me no matter what, as long as I don't become one of those dickey lesbians, which I have no clue what she meant.Going back to my best friend, she had told a couple of my other friends without me knowing. So when they started making little jokes about it, I got really scared thinking that she had told my entire year group.I asked her about it, and she said that she just assumed it was okay. Every single day my friends make jokes about, and sometimes they make the jokes around people I haven't told yet, and it gets really awkward.But all the people I have told have been really amazing and accepting about it, but I haven't found anyone that I 'like' yet. I really want to though, not because I'm Desperate, but because there are times when I question myself wondering if I have made the right decision. -Jessie