We Are the Normal Ones: Memoirs of a Fallen Human

True or False

I wanted to know why repetition was such an effective learning technique so I looked it up. What repetition does for us is that it helps transition a skill from our conscious to our subconscious. Our conscious mind commands while our subconscious obeys.

Your subconscious mind works day and night to make sure your behavior fits the pattern that is consistent with your emotionalized thoughts, hopes and dreams. It's like a big memory bank that stores your beliefs, memories and life experiences.

Your subconscious follows a rule called "you get what you focus on" also known to be "experience-dependant neuroplaticity".

Each of us has a brain that is designed to be malleable and open to our influence. So, through experiences, you can change your brain. Our brain is constantly shaping itself to be the best it can be for us.

Taking the formula of "you get what you focus on" and the concept that our brain changes let's look at an example of how this affects us. Negative thinking is a common side affect of living in a world where people are to be flawless, beautiful, strong and smart in order to be accepted. There's a song that goes into the reality of plastic surgery that says, "no one will love you if you're unattractive". Sadly, that's society's candy to those who's craving sweets.

Because you had a false belief about yourself ("I'm ugly", "I'm unlovable", "no one likes me") the more you tell yourself that, the more that becomes your "focus". Those thoughts are being drilled into our subconscious where you'll find proof for that idea even if it isn't true. Those negative thoughts about yourself that run through your head constantly has become powerful enough to you that it's feels true. Your thought of "I'm not good enough" was transferred from your conscious to your subconscious; where our beliefs live.

Be easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself.
If a person tells a lie so many times, eventually he'll believe the lie. Your thoughts of "nobody cares about me", "I'm a disappointment" are actually lies you've told yourself so much you believed it.

Replace those thoughts with positive ones (easier said than done, right?) For a while it'll be nauseating telling yourself "I'm smart" and "I am enough" over and over. For some reason, saying nice things to ourselves takes more effort than to bash and criticize who we feel we are. Do that so much, tell yourself how great you are so much that that becomes your truth. Because truth is. . .

You're amazing.