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Next Please!

Ang soundtrack ng mga pusong sawing gusto nang umusad mula sa traffic sa EDSA.

There is no easy way to mend a broken heart. As there is never an easy way to stop loving. Heartbreak is awful, it's true. Some find a different way to get over it. Some don't.

Saklap no?

Mga ganyang linyahan. Bakit ba kasi nauso ang pag-ibig na 'yan? Kunsabagay kung walang pag-ibig wala ako, ikaw at tayo. Kaya sige na nga, hahayaan na natin ang pag-ibig na 'yan at pag-usapan natin kung papaano natin malalabanan ang sakit na dulot niya sa oras na iwan niya tayo.

How do we get over heartbreaks?

Or the right questions is, paano ba ang magmove-on? Diba ang simple ng tanong at may simple ding kasagutan pero ang hirap gawin? 'Yong iba nga nagbibigti, naglalaslas,umiinom ng lason at tumatalon sa building kasi hindi na nila kaya.

Love kills. It is the most wonderful thing that exists but it can also be the most destructive. Ngayon paano mo ba malulusutan ang heartbreak? Narito ang mga balasubas na steps na maaaring makatulong sa'yo kung isa kang pusong sawi.

1. i-Mandy Moore Mo (Cry)

Just cry it out. Loud. Huwag kang mahihiyang umiyak. Nasaktan ka lang it is expected from you na umiyak. Hindi ka bato na walang nararamdaman kaya umiyak ka lang hanggang sa mamaos ka. There are few people who can get over heartbreak without shedding tears, so let them flow. Kapag kinulong mo 'yang nararamdaman mo, you'll only end up making yourself feel worse later and moving on will be even harder. You are delaying your chances of moving forward. Let go of the emotions!

Cry and cry until everything set loose without anything to hold back. Go through the heartbreak. Do not go around it.

2. Mag-Ariana Grande ka (Breakfree)

Magwala ka. Gumala ka. Get some distractions. Remove and revel in your independence. Kung kinakailangang magliwaliw ka sa mga isla saPilipinas gawin mo (siguraduhin mo lang na may pera ka). Kung wala kang pera, eh di mamasyal ka sa park o kaya mangapitbahay ka. Huwag mongkinukulong ang sarili mo dahil mas lalo mong mararamdaman ang sakit dahil nakafocus ka kaka-emote. Try to fill the void he/she left in your chest. Oh diba ang lalim?

3. Make an Adele move (Hello)

Hindi ko sinabing tawagan mo ang ex mo. Nah! Not yet. This means you need someone to talk to. Talk to your friends and family. Your family and friends (trusted friend huwag sa kaibigan mong chismosa at plastic) will always be your refuge in times that you feel like killing your self dahil sa kaartehan mong at hirap kang mag-move on. Try talking to a stranger as well. A stranger na hindi ka nanakawan o sasaktan. Random safe stranger na handang makinig. Try it. You'll never know if that stranger could give a piece of advice that can end all this kaartehan. Warning: Huwag makipag-usap sa stranger naang unang sasabihin sa'yo ay ganto "Ma'am, open-minded ka ba? Tara coffee!  

4. Rise Like Demi Lovato (Skyscraper)

If you know that song and you know the meaning of every line of it, you will get this item. Yes, you have almost died but you need to rise from the ground like a skyscraper (kantahin ko na ba?). You might have been so miserable after the break-up but you need to stay alive and fight! Focus on moving on. Focus for a while on what's left and what matters -your career and family. Try to do some charity works, something new. Rebuild your life.

Stop looking back on what's behind you. Move forward if you must and leave the pain. Keep yourself occupied, so you don't have time to be upset. Have a good time to get over that heartache. List your strengths and use them to survive it. You will be fine.

5. Mix it like the Little Mix (Miss Moving On)

Acceptance is the key to success. Tanggapin mo na ate kung walana talagang chance. Marahil nasaktan ka sa mga nangyari sa relasyon niyo but eventually, but eventually, you will find that you can live without it getting in the way. Open yourself to new possibilities. If it is needed for you to fantasize other guys/girls, flirt with others, do it. Just be careful this time. You must remember that every relationship is a learning experience. Use that experience for your future relationship/s.

6. Be Like Mariah Carrey (Through the Rain)

Make it through the rain. It is a hard battle, but you need to make it through. Hindi ka naman forever nakababad sa ulan, sumilong ka. Uminom ka ng mainit na sabaw. Magpahinga ka at hintayin mong umaraw. Huwag mong sagarin ang pag-eemote mo sa ulan. Pupulmunyahin ka at ikakamatay mo 'yan! Marami nang namatay sa pagpapakatanga kaya huwag ka nang dumagdag pa. Never forget to love again. The past relationship caused you pain, get out of it and stay out of it.

Time heals all wounds, especially in the case of heartbreak. Take time to help yourself get through. Hindi siya instant noodles na agad-agad mong makukuha. Marami kang luhang iiiyak at dugong sasayangin. Hindi mo maiiwasan 'yan. Nagmahal ka eh (buti nga sa'yo). But admit it, once you get over the heartbreak, that, the next day you're ready to face a new world, is like a miracle.   

Say, "thank you, NEXT!"