my lost love

Friends?

爱能够让一个人变成世界上最愚蠢的人。

你会为了他奋不顾身，丢失了自己和原本的幸福。

爱呀... 说起来在可笑。

Love is like an addiction to poison. Even when it is killing you, you can't stop loving it. 

Many asked if you still can be friends with someone you truly love?

It is a question I have been contemplating on my own for a long time too. 

Don't rush it. Time will give you an answer. 

The answer may not be clear but you will come to know what's best for you. 

I came to 3 different conclusions. 

One, you are no longer friends. You are just familiar strangers. 

You may think that this suck and is the worst possible scenario. You hoped that you and him/her will never reach this stage. 

It is unnecessarily true. 

Sometimes, you need to cut clean to move on. Sometimes, you need to know that he is no longer that person who loved or cared for you. Sometimes, it takes nonchalance to give up and move on.

Second, you are friends once again. 

You and him/her care too much for one another to just disappear from one another's life completely. 

Maybe time has allowed you two to heal, stop loving and move on. 

This stage is the hardest to achieve because it got to be mutual to work. Both of you have to be really true and in touch with your feelings. 

Third, friends with minimal and limited contact. Acquaintances. 

You love him/her too much but you genuinely still care for him/her. You have not stopped loving.

However in control you are of you feelings, you still loved him/her and it truly hurts.

It was best to just continue on with your own lives as 2 separate individuals to move on.

I am at the third stage. 

To be honest, I don't think that staying friends after a relationship is about maturity. 

It's an understatement which does not proves to be true. 

There are lots of feelings, thoughts, questions, memories and others involved. 

There is no right answer. You should do what you feel right. Trust yourself and your gut feeling. 

Because no one will understand you better than you do. Only you can justify your own decisions and actions.