The Art Of Our Thoughts

The thing about being there for someone

I never really thought much about it, like I didn't think it was such a big deal to be there and support someone during their hard times, I thought it was easy.

So when someone told me that people weren't there for them their entire life, I got a bit dumbfounded.

Until this year.

I've seen so many of my close friends go through so much, from death to sickness to failing and some other things.

And I stayed there with them, and when I couldn't physically, I tried to be there for them through whatever other mechanism I could use.

And it was draining. It was like you're giving all this energy to someone constantly and you're putting them above your own needs so your energy keeps being sucked until there's not an ounce left.

It's the right thing to do of course.

But this year, I realized how much it might damage you mentally, to help someone that's been through trauma or anything of the sort.

I don't regret it, and I never will, because they're the closest people to my heart, and that means that they'd do the exact same thing if the tables were turned.

And to be bluntly honest, people who drop off the earth when their loved ones are in pain, or when times get tough and messy, yeah they're kind of jerks.

What's the point of being someone's ride or die when at times that someone is feeling like death you're not there for them?
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Dedicated to: A bunch of people in my life.

-S.S.