"ANOTHER KID!!! Jack what are you thinking" she whisper yells
"Just think about it, everytime we have a kid we fall deeper and deeper in love"
"We can barley handle three. I mean Ellie's not even what 3 and she already broke her arm"
"That was because of Daniel not us"
"I guess but- well now that I think of it maybe"
"Exactly But we should still see what the counselor says"
"I agree"
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It's the next day and we bring Hayden to school
Once we're done we go to our first counseling session
We get to the office and get called in immediately
"Hi before we start I just want to say that my daughter is a huge fan of your band" she says to Jack
"Oh great"
"Yeah anyways what's your issues"
"We get mad at each other a lot"
"Well that makes sense every couple does. What makes it different about your situation"
"He doesn't make time for me anymore. Like I understand with the band and the kids and everything it is hard to be able to be with each other 24/7 but sometimes I feel like he could try harder. He isn't always working for the band and when he isn't he isn't really doing much with the kids either. We have someone who can watch the kids and go on dates but every time I bring it up he just acts like it's not important"
"Well we both know what happened last time we had someone watch the kids for a little extra time"
"What happened?"
"Our daughter Ellianna broke her arm"
"Oh"
"Yeah but that wasn't the person's who was watching them fault she slipped on the step while he was helping our son Hunter"
"Do you trust the person who watches them?"
"Yeah a lot they would never purposefully hurt our children"
"But she still got hurt on his watch. Yeah I trust him but he clearly can't handle watching two kids"
"How about a compromise. Either have the babysitter you have come with another person so they both can handle one child or get a new babysitter that can handle both at the same time. Also go on a really romantic date just to show that even though your separate lives are stressful your together, love life can still flourish and survive. Maybe one romantic date a month."
"That sounds like a great idea" Jack says
"Great so I believe there's a baseball game this Saturday. I have two tickets but I'm actually going away this weekend if you guys want them I'll give them to you"
"You don't have to" I say
"But I want to. Baseball games are really romantic. By the end of the night it's all dark with the only light coming from the field and I heard there's a full moon coming it would be really special for you two"
"I'd like that" Jack says
"Well here they are. It starts at 6 this Saturday."
"Thank you" Jack smiles
"Okay now you've mentioned you have two children"
"We actually have three"
"What're their names"
"The oldest is Hayden and he's 3. Then the other two are twins Ellianna and Hunter and they're 2"
"Oh so I'm guessing there's not much sex going on between you two"
"Not at all." I answer
"This is a little personal but do you know the last time you had sex"
"2 years ago"
"Well what's up with that"
"The last few times we've had sex ended up with children. And one time we got caught by our son making out and he freaked out"
"So you're scared that you will have another child or the kids will see it happen"
"Exactly"
"Well what I'm hearing is you only kiss is that true"
"Correct"
"Here's what I think. If you guys want to make out or kiss or anything and not have your kids see, go in your room and lock the door that way they can't get in and even if they do come in you will know cause you'll hear the door try and be open"
"But what about normal sex"
"So on Saturday see if the kids can go to the babysitters house. That way after the game you can go home and have all the sex you want. I suggest for Saturday get one of your parents to watch them and say its for a sleepover. That way you have all night"
"How do we make sure I don't get pregnant again" I ask
"Have you ever heard of condoms?"
"Well we get so into it that we forget"
"A little too much information"
"Sorry"
"Well I'll give one last piece of advice and then this is over. Remember you two love each other and it is normal for couples to fight. Think about your children and how much they love you guys. No matter how bad it gets always take a deep breath and think if it's worth a fight. Also whenever you feel as the other doesn't love you look at your ring finger and remember what is worth more. The fight or your love for one another?"
"Thank you so much" we say as we leave
We enter the car and head home
"We will make this work baby I promise" Jack says putting his hand on my leg
I put my hand on top of his and connect our hands
I look down at our wedding rings and smile
"I love you" I tell him
He takes my hand and kisses it
"I love you more"
