Our Love Goes On and On

Where'd It Go?

"So glad to see you two back here."

The couple looked happy. Any marriage counselor could see their smile was a sign of happiness, but of course he wanted to dig deeper.

"I'm glad we're back." Chase said.

"Can you guys catch me up a little bit? What's been happening since the last time I saw you?"

Roman started, and he appreciated his wife giving him the time to do so. "A lot, but nothing that could keep us too far from each other."

"We had been fighting." She said.

"Work had been hectic." He added.

"No sex."

"No communication."

"It was bad." She laughed, "But I think we realized everything that was lacking and we sort of got it together enough to get back here."

"Knowing the problem is always a great start for the two of you. I can see the chemistry, and all the love, but that's not what holds you together. That's the attraction. What molds you two together is communication, understanding, compromise, and so much more."

They both nodded their head in understanding.

"I want you both to make it a habit to never leave each other angry. If you're both mad at each other, who are you going to talk to?"

"I usually talk to my best friend." Chase stated, "Phil gives me a good view on things."

"I talk to my friend as well. He's been through a divorce and he's been there for me, so I vent to him a lot."

"Venting is always a great outlet, but a tip to start the process of communication, instead of telling your best friends, why don't you tell each other. Tell him how you feel, and tell her how you feel. Then, you'll have a clear understanding of each other's point of view. That lessens confusion, and keeps a lot of outside opinions out of your marriage."

Chase looked over at her husband and saw he was taking it all in. Trying.

"Roman, what do you feel is your role in an argument?"

"I try not to nag her, or pick at her, because I hate fighting with her, so it takes a lot to get me upset. I try to diffuse a lot of our arguments before they can get big, you know?"

"I'm so the opposite," Chase poked her lip out, "I love fighting with him."

"Why?" He asked.

"Not how we were fighting, Ro, that was bad. I'm talking about the fights that don't really count as fights. Like, the ones where it takes ten minutes to make up."

"You frustrate me on purpose?"

"Yeah," she saw the confused look on his face and she nuzzled her face into his chest, "I'm sorry. I like to see you mad at me. And I like when I can see it in your face that you hate that I'm mad at you."

"Do you do that often, Chase?" Their counselor asked.

"Um, no. It's every now and then when we haven't fought in a while. I love the fight, but making up is the best."

She nudged him and he couldn't help but roll his eyes, "She's been a sex addict since we haven't been fighting."

"Oh?" Their counselor was intrigued.

"Yeah, she's been trying to make up for the fight."

"You love it."

"Yes, but it keep telling you it's unnecessary."