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It's over

It's over.
This sentence sound so easy. But it is the hardest part for both. It's hard to decide to end up everything, to say that there is no chance of going back to where you came from.
And it's also hard to accept when someone else says it to you. It's hard to accept that the other person doesn't see any chance to go back, to save the past, the have a new beginning. And since it is so hard to accept what the other one decided for the two of them, you want to change their mind if you want to go on or to start again.
It's understandable since it's a logical reaction.
But whta most people forget is the "It's over" isn't said easily. Everyone wants a happy-end for everything. So if someone tells you that it's over after they had thought about it seriously, you shouldn't make it even harder for the other one. Saying it's over means that the person was hurt so hard that they can't forgive anymore. If you now tell them to overthink their decision, if you you beg for forgiveness, if you tell them to stay, you'll make everything worse for both of you. If the other one says "It's over" over and over again, it'll hurt both of you over and over again. But if the other one finally agrees with you, if the other one gives you another chance, they'll still hurt. Nobody says "It's over" without any reason. But if they are told to forgive you, they'll try to forget why they wanted to end it. But it never works out. They will never be able to completely forget what brought you there. But they will always try to hide it unti it kills them on the inside and everything will become even worse than it was the first time they told you they wanted to leave.

So please, if you ever are at a point where on of you wants to end up, accept it. Respect the other one's decision. And always keep in your mind: it's hard for both of you, even if it does not seem to be.