Ghosting is the easiest way to let the other person down in this time and age. The message gets across (or lack thereof). You see, I never had a closure. I just accepted the fact that I am not worth an explanation... I don't even deserve a better goodbye.
So here's how I rebuild myself when there were no pieces left to pick up (or simply, how I moved on without closure):
1. FORGIVE AND BE THANKFUL
Forgive the ex that didn't reach out. This was the hardest but the first thing I did when he left me. I just chose not to hate him.
2. GRIEVE
I cried A LOT - - EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I cried in front of my clients, at work, when I don't like the food, if the song "Kathang Isip" plays wherever I'm at, to name a few.
3. FOCUS ON PERSONAL GROWTH
I distanced myself as much as I can, as far as possible. I avoided the places we used to go to
4. TRAVEL AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
I spent 3 consecutive months going in and out of the country not just to shop, but for a new environment for me to BREATHE. It did take my mind off things. Made me see the world still has so much to offer.
5. PRAY
This is THE most effective and MOST IMPORTANT step. I prayed and prayed anytime, anywhere. I prayed for all the good and bad things that happened between us to stop hurting me. I prayed for MY healing. I prayed for his happiness. I prayed for me to understand God's will. Even if it hurts.
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POETRY THAT STAYS
PoetryYou don't really love someone, not until they become the person behind of your poetries. When poetry speaks, it echoes through your soul, lingers in your heart, and dances in your dreams. And... it stays. I wrote poems enough for people to ask, "w...
