Be A Girl

Don't jump down his throat.

Reason #27 I am writing this: Too much emotions cause poor judgement.

So, lets just say I met this person.

*gulps* dont give me that look, I didn't mean to fall for him or anything. But I did.

I so did.

....anyway, we are not here to talk about how I fell for him. We are here to talk about what happened later, I guess. The tiny not so fights kind of fights.

So, something I tend to do alot is misunderstand him. Like, he'd try to say something totally trival or even sweet and I would go all donkey stupid and accuse him of meaning something else. Or he would say something that might actually be just alittle bit hurtful in my opinion, and I would take it to a whole other level of hurtful.

And him, being the great person he is, doesnt really fight back. He just tells me how it hurt when I said something and then tells me to have sometime to think about it and tell him when I am ready to talk.

But thats the point. I am ready to talk. I dont know. Okay? I am too nervous when I like someone and that leads me to being a weird inspector of their words waiting for everysingle 'might be' something they dont like about me to come out. And then I just get all defensive trying to protect myself from I dont even know what.

I end up disasterously when I fall in love, at least now I know that.

But I guess, me being me, I know how to advice anyone who is in the same situation as me. You know what they say on FB now: I give the best advices to others but I suck at my own life.

You thought I'd say 'it's complicated' when I said FB now didn't you ;p

So first and most importantly, do not ask your friends what to do. Thats an advice I love and follow hell I didnt even tell my friends about him. Because here is the thing, sure your friends do want to help but they aren't you. They don't know how you feel towards him. They didn't have the same memories you two had together. This is a relationship between two people. You and him. It's yours. Keep it that way. Go with your guts. He chose to be in a relationship with you. He doesnt want it to be continued based on your friends' opinions.

Then, everytime something happens and you just feel like doubting it all, remember all the good things that happened. And the good things he does. And the sweet words he says. Then ask yourself if you think you are willing to let all of that go for..what even?

Until now, all of these are advices I have no problem inventing and following.

But then comes three: don't get too defensive. I doubt it's just me here but who gets all defensive over themselves when they hear something that hurts them and say something that they will totally regret two minutes after they say it? Something that they dont even believe but good luck proving that after you say it! Well to prevent that I think you need first to always remember he isnt going to ever hurt you on purpose. And when it does happen and you feel just alittle bit hurt, dont jump down his throat at claw his heart out too quickly. Before doing that you need to calm down, even if it means not answering what he just said. Then think if he really meant it that way? Then ask him if he meant it that way. If yes, why?

Now if why turns out to be annoying now you jump down that jerks throat! Just kidding just kidding, just try to see things from his prospective. Most cases, if he says something meaning to hurt you then he was hurt first and he wanted to show you that.

And last but not least, give him time to think. Now say you two had a rocky conversation. And he said he needs sometime to think and he'll text you when he is ready. Now I know how this sounds. And I know you are this close to killing yourself for making him feel bad but insisting he shouldnt go isnt going to help him get better. Let him have his time, think it over. Talk to himself about it. I dont know.. just give him the time he asked for. He isn't indirectly dumping you, I hope.

So yes, these are all the advices I have. And yes, I think even stupid people like me fall in love.

So yea, hope that helped. I am always here if you need help just text me.

And Shawirma, in case you read this which I doubt you do :p , I never mean to hurt you and if I ever do (which I bet I would) I love you and I am sorry. And I didn't write your name for a reason so I hope you dont get pissed if you read this. This is a girl's support book anyway, why would you be here?! ...I am over thinking again. Okay I am going now...

....Yarab mat7salsh mashakl..