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I just have feelings but I don't know where to start.

Why is society/people so persistent with the idea that you only can have 1 favorite person and that person has to be your spouse. Why can't I love and value my best friends the same amount as my spouse?

"It's just the way it is" but why?!!

People will call you a bad husband/wife/partner for not putting your wife/husband/partner first every time, but not a bad friend for letting your friendship drift if your reasoning is you're married and you give all your love to your spouse.

Love. Is. Infinite. You can't run out of it? Why can't their be an equal balance.

What hurts me is when someone even had the courage to bring it up and most people don't get it.

There's this podcast that comes up on my TikTok called the you should know podcast and it's run by two best friends, Peyton and Cam. Love those guys they're so funny.

Cam is married to Peyton's sister and Peyton is single right and there has been at least 2 clips probably more that I've seen with Peyton being open about how he feels and he has told cam he feels like their friendship is less than or less than what it used to be since cam got married.

So thing number one, from the sound of it he's not even that upset that it's less important than the marriage, it's just less than what their friendship used to be. Getting married shouldn't drastically change your friendships.

And Peyton, I love him, everyone calls him stupid and like I hate when people call people stupid for like not always having common sense bc I truly believe there's multiple intelligences and "common sense" isn't actually so easy for everyone but something else might be easy for them that's hard for others. Any way so he's already at a disadvantage with the audience bc most people don't agree with his points to begin with.

And I just feel so bad because he brings it up in a light hearted silly manner but this feeling is so real and it's not just me other people have said it too that he genuinely seems upset/sad by it but he's just playing it off.

And most people just don't get it in the comments. "We gotta get him a girlfriend" or "what's wrong with him of course people love their wife more" like listen to what he's saying please.

Sometimes I'm like "this won't happen between me and my best friend" but what if it does? I mean I don't think it will- but what if?

And even if it doesn't I still see it happen to others and I feel so bad for them because it is not fair. 

I kinda feel like this happens more often between friendships between 2 men and one is married or a man and a woman and the man is married because 1. Girls are a lot more emotional about their friendships and 2. I feel like society puts pressure on men to be this perfect husband who's world revolves around his wife and its almost more socially acceptable for girls to have a social life outside of marriage.

I don't know. I could be taking nonsense. It just it's painful to watch friendships die because of things like this.

Anyways, forever a Peyton fan and defender ❤️

Thanks so much for listening, I hope you all have a wonderful day/night. Best wishes, take care. 💚💜