The following is a short guide for situations with the crazy best friend when they are involved with your love life.
The situation must be taken with salt as not every situation will immediately parallel to yours. This is made by observations of other relationships. The situation is when a best friend is invested in love life by unhealthy levels. Taken quote, "Your sex life is my sex life." If this quote summarized a friend's condition with one's love life, this guide is for you.
This is not a situation when relationships shows positive results. Instead, this is when a relationship goes wrong. Cupid's Repentance is best described by five levels. After a week has gone by, Cupid's Repentance is no longer in effect. If, however, something wrong happens in a relationship by intentional means, the clock will reset.
Friends in the Cupid's Repentance will always side with the party they sympathize with. Most of the time AKA you, the friend of the friend. They will communicate in some form or way to get as many details out of the relationship as possible. They will always sense when something is wrong. Facial expression, breaking of behavior pattern, show-able marks of some kind will alert the friend, activating their defensive settings. Thus, the Cupid's Repentance begins.
Level 1: Show-able Claws
Level 1 begins quietly, but the offensive party will be alerted as the friend will begin to show threatening gestures. Of course, mistakes can be forgiven (unless the party is sensitive, amplifying the effect.) The friend will show these gestures quietly, but can be dismissed. The party will be disturbed in some way, but behavior is likely to be corrected. If not, we lead to level two.
Level 2: Stalker
If the offensive party repeatedly creates multiple offenses, the friend will be forced to pay high attention to the relationship. They will ask to the most specific detail. Occasionally, they will stalk any activity in case anything goes wrong. This will continue unless they are confronted. The evaluation of what they observe will determine the answer. If they observe most positively, they will begin to respect all parties and hopefully desist. If observed negatively, proceed to level 3.
Level 3: Physical Altercation
The party will be intruded by physical contact. It is important to defuse the situation as quickly and carefully as possible. Situations like these usually occur once, but in important single moment. They will both go defensive and aggressive. Normally after the incident, they will defuse with satisfaction of damage they cause; however, the lack of a satisfying ending will lead to level 4. At this point, there is nothing I can do to help when we reach this point. Still, hotlines and police may be necessary to contact. Sorry.
Level 4: Obsession
Life is going to be hell. Every moment of your life will involve Cupid's Repentance. It is best to begin motion for restraining orders as the obsessed party will involve themselves without respect. Common sense is thrown out of the window. They will inflict pain for a long variables of time until someone dies. The lifespan of Cupid's Repentance will involve many interruptions in normal life and will interfere the current state of living by unknown quantities. Acts of vengeance or mere absolute commitment to right wrongs affect everyone long-term. Upon reaching the end of their patience, we approach the final level.
Level 5: Absolute Justice/Death
It's in the title. Much like physical altercation, this act of justice is done with absolute purpose. They will create an action that will likely get someone killed. There is no morally correct way to solve this problem. Someone is going to die or come across in critical condition. Just makes sure it isn't you.
Cupid's Repentance in low levels is understandable reaction, but higher levels show actions of psychotic tendencies that may affect one's mental health. I'm not saying to forgive or find other outlets. Just be aware Cupid's Repentance shows toxic behavior, but can relieve stress of situation. Talking to a therapist or getting involved in your own love life are effective ways to avoid this scenario.
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This journal is a rough observation. Data and terminology is not always politically correct.
If your have experienced physical abuse, there are hotlines that will help you. Cupid's Repentance is behavior outside your area of control. Still, you can help yourself from domestic violence by reporting it. There are a lot of things to be afraid of, but your voice is always valued.
