My life with Aspergers

Chapter 19- Texting/Cell phones

Alright so here is something you should know about texting taking from my experience the hard way. If you want to learn this the easy way, than keep on reading. When I had gotten my very first phone I was excited because I got to text people. I wanted so bad to give people my cell number so I can talk to people (Not obsessively) Now you might be thinking I don't ever want to text him now right? Well, don't worry because I am not like that anymore. You know the feeling when you get your first phone. I was just excited that day. The reason I am telling you this is because I want to tell you something so you don't make the same mistake as I did and I know better now.

The first mistake you should not do is when you get your phone, don't go to every single cute girl or guy you know (depending on your gender) and start saying

"Hey, look at me I got my first phone! Everybody start texting me!" Yeah... That's not gonna be good because the girl/guy (Depending on your gender) will probably just smile but in reality he/she might be thinking Ok I think that girl/guy is obsessed with someone texting them. So if you don't want to make the same mistake as I did, then just give your number to really good friends who you talk and hang out with all the time. Not every cute girl/guy you see (Just reminding you of depending on Gender)

The second thing you should not do is do not buy your first phone at a store like Walmart or something. Well you can if you have a job and you can pay for the phone every month. If you don't have enough money for to pay for it every month, I suggest you do not buy it. Because the first time I did that, I bought a phone at Walmart in Cedar Hill, Utah because I wanted to be like everyone else in school having a cell phone while I did not. It was a good and bad idea at the same time. I had enough money to buy the phone but the bad thing was, it cost money for texting and calling also... So I ran out of money in that same month. Well, a few months later I did the same thing... Again. Don't ask me why, I thought I had enough money for it. I did but ran out of money again.

So to recap, don't buy a phone from Walmart or something unless you have enough money to pay for it every month including paying the bill for texting and calling and whatever else you do on that phone.

Another thing you should not do is buy 2 phones at the same time. One your friends can call/text you on and a personal one where only this specific person can call/text you on.. I learned that the hard way too.

My best advice is wait until your parents/guardian gets your family a family phone where you don't have to pay the phone bill for texting/calling.

Back in November the day before thanksgiving, my phone broke because of my anger. It wasn't because of the person I was texting... The phone was being just stupid. I remember I was downstairs the day before thanksgiving. Do you remember the girl I met in Junior high and HIgh school with? The one that backed out on the dances when she asked me? Well the day before thanksgiving in November I was shocked because she had not texted me in many, many, many months until the day before thanksgiving. I was sending a text back and I was waiting for about 5- maybe 10 minutes (Which I thought took a hour) I got so frustrated because it wasn't sending and I smashed it on the ground and it broke in half. That's one thing to learn about cell phones.. If you get angry at your phone, do not do the same thing I did by smashing it on the floor and causing it to break in in half.

Months later I had finally got another phone (I still have it with me to this day) I promised myself the same thing would not happen again. I would not make my anger to breaking the phone. My old phone was my dad's old one and he had given it to me as a promise that if I finished 2 classes on Electronic High School (Which I Really hate because it took so much time and I got bored of it) I could have his old phone since he had a new one. Once I passed 2 classes I got to keep it.

This phone I like a lot better because it's a slide and it's a touch screen. I guess I am into that touch screen area. I did a lot of things I did not like but I learned the hard way... So take it from me, the advice I gave you; Take it. Do not end up the same way I did. Even to this day I learned my mistakes from using a cell phone/texting.

Ok here is another thing about texting; Only send someone 1 text and wait for them to respond. Because if you do not want to be annoying, then send one text and wait for them to respond. If they respond, that's great! If they do not respond, then do not keep sending texts... That will just annoy the person. If you think they will say to you that you are being annoying, think again. Because I learned that they hard way... I used to text a lot of people and I would send multipule texts maybe like every 1 or 2 hours. But the thing is that's true is, they will not tell you that you are being annoying so you really have no way of knowing if your annoying or not. Now it doesn't hurt to ask if you are or not but they may or may not tell you that if you are or not. However if it is your best friend who you tell everything to and they tell you stuff too leaving nothing behind, than they will tell you truthfully.

But if you don't want to take the chance of annoying someone then I suggest you take that one shot just send them 1 text. If they respond, that's great. If they don't than do not text them until they do respond. It could be the rest of the day or tomorrow.. You may never know.