Basking Brooks

Handling hurts

“I’m a strong man, and usually
I get over hurts and it makes me stronger
when I come back.”
– Dusty Baker

People are different. It means that it involves ourselves too. We are born the same, but grow into a unique human being with his or her own set of characteristics and attitude, likes and dislikes. So, as a social being we are bound to live with people around us. Since we have emotions flowing through our mind, it becomes inevitable that we fall prey to those feelings.

The one feel that has the ability to rock even the strongest soul to lose all positive hope in life is hurt. If left untended, hurt can manifest into a terrible mental disorder, rupturing without any sense of pity over the
person’s life. It is similar to auto-immune disease in a way. Body attacking itself.

Now, this hurt can come from two different places. One is the practical hurt and the other one is emotional hurt. Both have the similar effects with varied magnitude of pain and suffering. But, they are caused by different
sources.

Left part our brain is capable of dealing with logical analysis, motor functions, practical dealing of a problem, etc. whilst the right side of the brain takes care of the vital mind related traits like creativity, art, language,
emotional processing and so on. Now, it becomes simple to categorize the two hurts.

The stressful work, inability to bring out the best in one’s own field, feeling of lost in the middle of nowhere, losing a loved one, unable to become successful in one’s passion, loneliness, inferiority complex are some of the causes and factors that result in either one of the two hurts. How are we tackling these hurts, or are we even facing them? It is alright if we get hurt, after all we are humans. This is the first thing every one of us must begin to understand.

People nowadays are actually so scared of getting hurt that they are shielding themselves with a barricaded heart that doesn't allow blue-feels to creep in, and the funny thing is that they believe very firmly that it is the right thing to do. Well, is it? Absolutely not.

Shielding one’s emotions when they give unsettling mood, is not solving anything. It is
similar to running away from yourself to save yourself. How does that even make sense?
We are not pre-programmed to live like always-happy-robots. We must embrace our sorrows just like the happy moments. It is alright to cry too. But, the most important thing is to move on with our life as time
doesn’t wait for us to get back on our feet as and when we feel like it.

And also, there’s no substitute player to live our life for a how-much-ever insignificant period of time. We all know that life doesn’t work like that. It feels so simple to write in words.

Let us analyze the feelings and thinking of our mind when we are not facing the best of times. We’ll feel distraught and hopeless. Loneliness and the feel of unknown burden creep and crawl all over our skins and settle down in our hearts and weigh us down. Life all of a sudden becomes meaningless and worthless in that period. Another important symptom is the confusions and degrading thoughts about self. We must always
remember that whenever we feel sad, the thought trains that fly by at high speed inside our heads are purely fictitious and are figments of our imagination. We begin to over stress and over think things that are not
even real and solid in the first place.

When we give in to the negativity, it demands to be felt. And it wins most of the times. Distracting oneself from such thoughts is a neat solution to keep ourselves on track. It gives the negative thoughts no power to get a strangle-hold on our mind.

It is true what the elders say, “Sadness is a like sudden cloud formation, which after a given time, would eventually dissolve and disappear, giving way to a clear sky once again”.

So, the task is to make our mind inhospitable for the negative thoughts to trick and lure us into its pits. Talking with a close friend, venting out the feel in writing, going for a bike ride with nature as a company, doing favorite things like eating chocolates, ice creams, or visit place of peace like temple, park, beach, etc. It requires effort and that effort acts like the wind dispersing the clouds. We must learn to accept that it is our feeling and we must tackle it. Life becomes so easy when we are able to do this.

Do not let anyone to tamper with your inner peace, be it your closest friend or lover or family member. Whenever you are hurting and could not take any step towards betterment (yes, we can sometimes become grief-stricken to an extent that we feel broken and out of shape), remember one thing, all wounds are bound to heal one day (not necessarily today) and time makes sure that it is done without any exception. So, all you got to do is hold on a little longer. All will solve and the clear old sky or a totally new sky will await you. Believe that miracles happen every day and it will
happen to you too.