Hopya's Book of Advice

Unfaithful in a Long Distance Relationship

Anonymous.

How would you know if he’s being unfaithful to you when you’re in a long distance relationship and how can you prevent this from happening. How do you cope with yours?’ 

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The thing is, in a long distance relationship, there’s almost no way of telling. Except if you have people around him looking after for you and reporting things to you but surely if you love the person, it won’t be necessary. Marami ang nagkakahiwalay sa ganitong uri ng relasyon kapag ang ugali ng isa ay nagbago. This is most likely to happen kasi lets be honest to ourselves, mahirap maghintay at mahirap malungkot. Hindi mo kontrolado kung magbabago sya ng pakikisama sayo or mawawalan sya ng gana sa relasyon nyo at wag mong isipin na ikaw mismo ay hindi mawawalan ng gana kasi pwedeng-pwede. Pwedeng nawawalan ng gana sayo kasi may-iba, nawawalan ng pag-asa or sobrang nalulungkot lang sya at helpless na. Maraming dahilan eh pero hindi mainly ibig sabihin nun meron na syang iba.

Pwede ka rin maging-ninja if you must sa fb nya. Check mo yung mga activities nya kung ganun ka kadesperate. Pero the thing is, para sakin, kung unfaithful sya sayo wala kang magagawa eh. You’re almost helpless eh. Basta’t kung alam mong ikaw ang nasa tama, wag mo ng ilagay pa sa mali ang sarili mo. There’s no way of preventing this from happening but one thing you could do is keep your relationship as interesting as possible. There’s no guarantee na gagana to kasi minsan, kahit anong laban ng isa kung desidido ng bumigay yung isa wala ka ng magagawa. Kung nasasaktan na yung isa pipilitin mo pa ba? Diba kung tunay mong mahal papalayain mo pero minsan, may paraan eh. Sa bawat relasyon may kanya-kanyang character yan eh, parang tao yan. Lahat unique. Hindi lahat pare-pareho kasi ibat-ibang tao ang bumubuo nito. 

How do I cope with my relationship? I don’t go with the flow. That’s something I told myself that I should avoid. Going with the flow. I make things happen between me and him and does the same. Ayokong umasa sa mga bagay na dala ng panahon, if we want something to happen we make it happen. Not by chances but by our choices. HAHA. We’ve been in a long distance for almost 2 years now and one thing I can assure you is that things will get a bit more difficult and lonelier. Hindi ako na niniwala na if its meant to be, kayo pa rin sa huli. For me, kung gusto mo talagang maging kayo hanggang sa huli, make it happen. Do something about it.