Hopya's Book of Advice

Knowing one's value.

Ja-mes

I feel as stupid as I already do, asking someone who’s a lot younger than I am about my own personal love life. Your’s seems to be stable all the way, mines not. Obviously. I wouldn’t be here now would I? But I’ll cut to the chase. I’m 24 years old and I’d been with my girlfriend for almost two years now. I don’t know if I should move onto the next level. I’m one of those guys who jumps from one girl to another, I always want more. I always want something different every time. In the other hand, Delia is different among my playmates. She puts up with my bullshits and mess. How can I not love her? But the thing is, I don’t know if I’m ready to be tied down. She means ALMOST everything to me. Even though she knows I go out with other girls once in awhile, she doesn’t bust my ass off for it. Napapaisip tuloy ako, does she really care? Ayokong matali sa isang babaeng hindi ko sigurado kung may malasakit talaga sakin. I mean she comes around my office once in awhile, nagdadala ng foods, minsan nagyayaya lumabas, pero iniiwanan niya ako kapag may ibang babae na lumalapit na sakin. Minsan tuloy, hindi ko alam kung mahal ba niya talaga ako. Kung mahal niya ako ipaglalaban niya ako diba? Ang tanong ko lang kasi, bakit hindi niya ako pinaglalaban?

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Hopya

No need to feel bad. Advices doesn’t have to come from older people, I know how you feel for sometimes 14 year olds gives me advices, even 13 year olds. But hey, as long as someone says something that might help you, well, I suppose it’ll be good enough. My relationship might seem like perfect but I tell you, it’s ALMOST perfect but at the same time NOWHERE NEAR perfect. That’s how complicated it is. I mean we don’t fight and all that, we truly love each other but were millions of miles away from each other. I don’t get to see him twice a week, I don’t get to kiss him when he’s down and I don’t get to hug him when he needs someone in his time of needs. But enough about me, I just think you need to get the general idea. This is about you, not me.

Three words, SHE’S A KEEPER. And you’re definitely wondering WHY? First things first, she’s you’re girlfriend now, for how long? Two good freakin’ years! That’s no joke. I’m not new to this sort of problem. Not that I had been into one but I’ve heard a few of this. You know, if she puts up with whatever show you usually put up that you know other girls wouldn’t like, well then, why not? You seem sure about her at first but you got me feeling that it bothers you that she doesn’t do enough to get your dirty hands off away from other girls. Let me tell you, she leaves because she PROBABLY couldn’t stand you being with other girls, and you in the other hand, would go home feeling cloud 9 from the fun the you had. Do you have any idea how much it hurts for her to see you with someone else? Do you know how small would she see herself as after faking smiles in front of you whenever you get to go out just so that you think that she’ll always be there for you no matter what? That she will still chose to be with you no matter what is at stake? 

How can you say she doesn’t care about you? She spends time with you, she cooks food for you, she goes out on a date with you just so she could see you once in awhile. She has probably been wanting to be with you every time but she understands how you love your quality time with your playmates.

Bakit hindi ka niya pinaglalaban? Kasi in real world, ang babae ang pinaglalaban ng lalaki. Kung ready ka na magpatali? Well, what do you think? Hindi ako ang makakasagot niyan but what I can tell you is that you should learn to value those people who gives up their time just to spend time with you.