Words Of An Idle Mind

The Understanding We Expect

We expect a lot from everyone.

We expect them to understand everything about us, our past, our present, out future, our demons, our inspirations, Us. We expect them to understand, despite not trying to make them understand even once. We expect them to read our minds when they can't even read their own.

We expect too much. We expect them to fit in your visibly different shoes without thinking that they may not be comfortable in our sneakers or heels; without even considering that our shoe-style never matched!

We expect them to forget their experiences of growth and deeply dive into our experiences, the ones they have only heard, but never once lived through.

And all of this, we expect the most from our loved ones, more than anyone else.

Why can't we simply state our ideas out loud, our learnings, our lifestyles, our thoughts and our understandings? Why can't we let them be humans and learners?

We can't obviously have a user-manual that we share with every one. But we can be a diary, one which can be read only by someone who wants to know the answer to the question at the bottom of the page. Ones who care enough, will flip for an answer, the ones who don't will simply close the book. And that's okay.

It's okay to have limitations of understanding, because sometimes, it's either too much to take in, or too incomprehensible for someone who didn't have similar experiences.
Not all of us are on the same wavelength. And not all of us will be. At times, we may start at the same place, but our individual journeys may push us apart. And that's okay too.

Understanding only comes when we express. Our inexpression can't be the sword that cuts the thread of a relationship. Neither their lack of understanding at times too. Ofcourse if this is the case all the time, maybe parting ways can be easier. But most of the times, it can be worked upon.

Understanding is a swing that you ride on, and it's always in motion, back and forth, quick and slow. It's upon you, how you steer it. But remember, you can only control your swing and only you are in control of your swing.