A Black Girl Ranting

Virginity

Some people say that you lose your virginity when you do ANY type of sex. Vaginal, oral, or anal. If you have done any of these then you aren't a virgin.

Other people say when the hymen is broken then you're not a virgin anymore.

I am those other people. The hymen is broken with penetration. This is the reason why girls bleed and experience pain during their first time. After that, the hymen can't grow back. It stays broken. This is why I say this is losing your virginity.

When people say you lose your virginity when you have any type of sex, I think they are talking about purity. You do oral sex, you're not as "pure" as you were before. When you do anal sex, you're stretching out the asshole. That's not "pure" either. But you're still a virgin.

Some girl sucks a guy's dick, she still is a virgin. By society's standard, she's now a whore but by medical standards she is still a virgin. Same goes for anal. By medical standards, she is still a virgin.

And if you have done any of these don't be ashamed! Some girls will only go as far as oral and that's cool. You don't need penetration to be satisfied. Honestly all you need is a person with a good tongue. 😉 😂

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Now a lot of girls question when to lose their virginity without being judged by others. Well I'll tell you this.

IT DOESN'T MATTER.

No matter when you lose it, you will be judged. Lose it when you're a teenager, you'll be called a whore and too fast. Lose it later on in life, and they'll question your sexual life and ask why so late. There's literally no right answer.

You could lose it in your 30s for all I know, and that's okay. Hell you don't have to lose it, and that's okay. Some people just aren't ready or are too scared to. And that's okay.

Lose it when YOU think you're ready. Not when someone says you should do it already. Not when your partner says it's time.

Remember it's YOUR virginity, not theirs.