[the links are references, but not my original sources compiled over the years]
Emotional abuse:
One Love: "Emotional abuse is any abusive behavior that isn't physical, which may include verbal aggression, intimidation, manipulation, and humiliation, which most often unfolds as a pattern of behavior over time that aims to diminish another person's sense of identity, dignity and self worth, and which often results in anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts or behaviors, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)".
One Love's emotional abuse list:
"1. Intimidation
2. Manipulation
3. Refusal to ever be pleased
4. Blaming
5. Shaming
6. Name-calling
7. Insults
8. Put-downs
9. Sarcasm
10. Infantilization
11. Silent treatment
12. Trivializing
13. Triangulation
14. Sabotage
15. Gaslighting
16. Scapegoating
17. Blame-shifting
18. Projection
19. Ranking and comparing
20. Arbitrary and unpredictable inconsistency
21. Threatening harm
22. Forced isolation"
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/emotional-abuse-really-means/
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Verbal abuse:
One Love: "Here are the 11 most common verbal abuse patterns to look out for in a relationship:
1. Name-calling
2. Condescension
3. Manipulation
4. Criticism
5. Demeaning Comments
6. Threats
7. Blame
8. Accusations
9. Withholding
10. Gaslighting
11. Circular Arguments"
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/11-common-patterns-verbal-abuse/
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Triangulation:
Domestic Shelters: "Bringing in the opinion, perspective or suggested threat of another person into the dynamic of an interaction is known as "triangulation." Often used to validate the toxic person's abuse while invalidating the victim's reactions to abuse, triangulation can also work to manufacture love triangles that leave you feeling unhinged and insecure." https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you-part-iii
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Domestic Shelters: "Speaking out about abuse is never an easy decision for survivors, many of whom would attest that it takes a Herculean amount of courage to do so. So why would someone possibly not believe them at such a vulnerable time? Angelo says it's often a premeditated move by a very cunning abuser." https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/escaping-violence/when-no-one-believes-you
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Domestic Shelters: "Abusers often build themselves up as hero or savior figures in front of a survivor's friends and family while simultaneously painting the survivor as someone who is troubled and needs help. Angelo says an abuser may go to their partner's support system and tell them something like, "If this person [the survivor] comes to you and tells you that I hit them, I don't know what's the matter with them. They're lying and I'm trying to get them to seek help. I don't know where they'd be without me." https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/escaping-violence/when-no-one-believes-you
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