Relationship drama in media often portrays more toxic scenarios than showing examples of maturity and self-control. It's difficult to watch the worst-case scenarios be popularized. It's unnecessary.
I don't believe that breakups have to be vitriolic. Breakups are hurtful, but they don't have to be hateful. Breakups aren't personal attack against the rejected-partner; either they decided that the relationship isn't good for them (irreconcilable grievances), or the rejected-partner is just with the wrong person for them. The termination of a relationship is a legitimate option in conflict resolution. It takes both adults to willingly maintain a mutually consensual relationship.
If either one decides to end the relationship, the rejected-partner can only ask for further discussion on the dissolution from rejecting-partner. Regardless if the rejecting-partner is willing to reconsider, the rejected-partner has to ultimately accept and respect the final decision that the rejecting-partner has made. That's also even if the rejected-partner disagrees with the decision to not reconcile. Everyone has the right to decide who they want in their life, and also decide who they don't want in their life.
The rejected-partner's only option is move-on, learn from it, and focus on healing their heartbreak. It's okay when it's over; it's too broken to fix, so stop overthinking how to try to make it work. You can't make people stay. You can't make people try. You can't make people love you. You can only live on without them in your life. There's nothing to be bitter about. Being single is the free time to work on yourself without worrying about working on a relationship too.
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Maturing in Love by Rhizome Olivia Quondam
ChickLitMaturing in Love is an anthology guide of adulthood with poems, stories, essays, and blog posts about mature themes, learning self-love, adult-relationships, social issues, and life lessons from growing older. *The blog posts are topic introductions...
