If someone who you love tells you don't insult them (with their insecurities), you stop talking about it right then and forever, and you apologize. Stop criticizing/scapegoating your loved ones' weight, past relationships, hair texture/length, childhood, medical condition(s), income, disclosed secrets, education, current job position, past mistakes/failures, body type, setbacks, current situation, and etc... for all of the problems with your/their relationship. You are also an imperfect human being.
Insults are a choice that you make to either say or not to say. Put-downs aggravate insecurities. When you love someone, you motivate them, encourage them, and you give constructive criticism instead of making direct/indirect disparaging remarks whenever you can't have your way. Once you warn someone about a toxic behavior of theirs affecting you, it's up to them whether or not to listen to stop. If they don't listen and stop, leave them alone, for your own good. Those who invalidate your emotions don't care how you feel; your feelings are valid; your feelings are how you feel.
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Maturing in Love by Rhizome Olivia Quondam
ChickLitMaturing in Love is an anthology guide of adulthood with poems, stories, essays, and blog posts about mature themes, learning self-love, adult-relationships, social issues, and life lessons from growing older. *The blog posts are topic introductions...
