memoir(^○^)

(3) - reminder

"You are a nice person, really. You have a big heart and you have a lot lot lot lot of love in it. You're a precious snowball, you're selfish and ambitious and very very curious and just like other people; imperfect but perfectly human.

I know that you always have the intention to do good and be kind to people but here's a little reminder; you don't have to go all the way for someone who will only meet you halfway.

Not that it's not worth it.

It is, being nice is amazing and will get you places but think of it more as a test whether the person you're going all the way for will appreciate it as much as you do or not.

I know what it feels like to want to help and comfort people when they're at their worst but you need to remember that there's also a boundaries.

Ada batasannya.

Batasnya adalah ketika kamu merasa dirugikan baik dari dia maupun orang lain, dan ketika kamu merasakan hal itu berarti hubungan itu udah gak sehat lagi. Itu namanya toxic and you know what toxic does to people, kan? I think you know better since you study medicine.

I know you're kind but you don't need that kind of self-indulgent people in your life. You may be nice, but there comes a time when you don't need to care anymore. It's not that simple, of course. But that's the right thing to do."

-- the very first lecture that i get on 2017, thank you for reminding me and thank you for caring. your presence will always be one of so many things that i feel grateful about.