ace rants

Boundaries

Boundaries are important not just in dating, but in life. It's common knowledge that everyone's boundaries and comfort zones are different, and despite a lot of people not caring, everyone knows that it's important to respect other people's boundaries.

We can all agree on that, right?

But somehow when it comes to family, having boundaries is disrespectful? Some days I don't want to have physical contact with anyone, but my parents seem to think that that doesn't apply to them. It's the same with relatives. You have to do that whole nasty cheek kissing thing, and it makes my skin crawl, but it's incredibly rude to just say no.

And what makes all of this harder is that my boundaries change constantly, and they're different for different people. For some of my friends, I'd be fine literally lying on top of them, and for other ones, I don't feel comfortable touching them. I'm good friends with all of them, I just have different boundaries.

And sometimes I'll be fine hugging someone one day, and then the next day I won't want to touch them at all. 

I just wish people didn't think platonic/familial? (Idk the word for it) closeness could be measured by physical closeness