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Something I've noticed in today's society is the amount of shame people get for their bodies, and it's absolute shit. Why does anyone get shame for their bodies? Why does anyone else care what someone else's body looks like?

I'm tired of people being shameful of their bodies. I've been there. I've felt like my body looks like shit, and don't get me wrong there are days I struggle with it yet. But I've realized it's a way we think that makes us be shameful of our bodies. There are different ways, I've tried to help me gain confidence in my body and you know what helped me the most? I have the app to help me track my periods and it reminds me when so I don't have to try to figure it out myself, and I have the paid version so I have the 'social' aspect of it. What the social aspect is an online forum where you can ask questions, be a part of surveys, post tips, rant about something bothering you, pretty much anything. There was this survey today where we were trying to figure out our body types (I can never figure that shit out. It just doesn't make sense to me.) and I posted a picture on there because I was curious as to what my body type is. I got told hourglass, but I don't know. But, I also got told on there that I have an amazing body and that others wished they had the body I have. It made me realize that my body is pretty amazing. Not because other people have said it, but because it's my body. I'll add in the picture I put on there.

I think everyone needs a little bit of body positive tips today and for the future. That's what I've come to deliver today. Now I have pulled these tips from places on the Worldwide Interweb (the Internet). Some of these I remember from when I was trying to learn to love my body and some of these I just found today.

1. Don't be a shady bitch to yourself. You don't deserve that.

Before you criticize yourself, stop yourself. Be nicer to yourself. Just think to yourself, "Not today Satan. Not today."

2. Don't put down anyone else's body.

Look for the best in others. Besides, why the fuck are you shaming other people? Do you want people to look at you and say shit about your body? No! So don't do it someone else.

3. When you look in the mirror, point out all the things you like about yourself.

Instead of looking in the mirror and thinking about how much chub I have around my stomach, I focus on other things. Like how pretty my hair is when I let it dry naturally. It curls and waves to make it look like I spent hours doing it when all I did is get it wet and let it air dry. Or I'll look at my smile and be like "damn I have some pretty nice dimples." Or my eyelashes are pretty long naturally. Or my eyes are a pretty shade today.

4. Reframe your "flaws" as benefits.

Stretch marks = battle scars. You get them as a part of growing up.

Or take this one. A lot of girls complain about having small boobs. You're lucky. You are really are. You can sleep on your stomach more comfortably. I love sleeping on my stomach, but a lot of time my boobs get in the way. My back hurts from carrying my boobs constantly. Or if you have small boobs you don't have to wear a bra to run. If I don't wear a sports bra, I'll probably give myself a black eye.

Being short? I'm short, so I understand this one. I can put 2 body pillows and three regular size pillows and still have room at the bottom of the bed. Or when I fall (which happens often) I don't have to fall as far to the ground.

5. Realize that your weight is just one VERY small detail.

All weight is the force of gravity pushing down on you. As long as you are healthy and happy your weight shouldn't fucking matter.

6. The same goes for clothing size.

Clothing size doesn't matter. I like to buy most of my clothes a size bigger than I actually wear because it feels more comfortable to me.

7. Learn to take a compliment.

Just say thank you and possibly give a compliment back. Believe them. Your hair fucking rocks. Your eyebrows look great. Your shirt flatters you. Just say thank you.

8. Appreciate all of the epically badass things your body can do.

I can lift drag 150 pound tarp across our band field by myself. I can lift a 200 pound mallet instrument up by myself.

Think about all the epic badass things your body does.

9. Don't let yourself be defined by any bodily issue limitation. Your strength and self worth are not dependent on that.

Take my aunt for example. She has stage 4 breast cancer. She doesn't let that stop her from living her life. She helps her kids out when they need her. She brings her youngest to all his appointments by herself yet. She shows up at all my band events to wish me luck and congratulate me. She doesn't let the fact that she has cancer consume her. So don't let something about your body consume you.

10. Try to give zero fucks. Or at least less fucks.

This is the one tip that goes for everything. Love yourself and don't give a fuck if other people don't like something about your body. Well who gives a fuck? It's your body, not their's.

Long story short. Embrace your body the way it is. You are beautiful, no matter what anyone else says.

If any of you need to talk or want advice on this topic. My inbox is always open. -- Alexis