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Dear Boo, I'm not going into detail, but on Thanksgiving, I have to see my cousins. The younger one is a bully and is always insulting my intelligence. I don't want to see the other for reasons in not willing to discuss. How do I deal with seeing them?
Sincerely, Jen*
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Dear Jen*,
Hey there! To begin with, I'm sorry that you have to deal with a bully, and that the bully is your family. But most times it is our family who lets us down the most.
As for the one you don't want to discuss, just avoid being alone with that cousin. Stay near adults or other family members. If seeing him/her becomes too much then take yourself away from the situation.
As for the bully... We shall call snake 🐍 because a bully is a nasty, slimy no backbone snake!
You are going for a holiday so hopefully, it will only be for a couple of hours. You can't avoid the snake for the whole time but don't be alone with the snake. if you are, tell the snake to STOP! Be calm about it. Bullies look for a reaction, they want to anger you or make you cry.
You can laugh because you know you're smart, I know you're smart and so do the people that love you. Laugh along with the snake, it will catch them off guard and they won't expect it. Make your own joke and roll your eyes.
Stand up for yourself! Bullies attack those who they think are weak and won't stand up or say anything.
Make the snake 🐍feel bad about trying to degrade you. Try something along the lines of, "I hope you enjoy being a bully. Your life must be very miserable. It shows how irresponsible and childish you really are." Say it in front of people. Bullies normally go in for the attack when nobody us around to stop them.
"Do you bully me because you have no friends and no one likes you? It must be so lonely being you." Okay, it's sorta giving the snake a taste of its own venom.
Some tips if you aren't comfortable doing those things... Stay near adults or older teens that will back you up. Bullies won't say anything while adults are around. Tell the snakes parents or your own if you're comfortable with that. Being scolded by the snake's parents will get the snake to back down.
During dinner brag about your accomplishments! Remember you're smart, beautiful and a wonderful person. Not everyone can say that about themselves. Especially a stinking bully!!!
Don't let anyone take away your shine baby girl!!!
I don't have personal experience with this topic. I've never been bullied and neither have my kids. But my kids have stopped bullies and I did ask my 13 and 14-year-old sons for advice on this as well.
I hope things so better for you this Thanksgiving sweetheart!
💋Love Always, Boo💋
*Names have been changed to protect the identity of writer*
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