Dear Boo

💘Best Friend Dilemma 💘

Dear Boo,

I have this friend, Journey*, that I love dearly. She has five children now.

Journey* recently had a baby by her ex husband who she recently divorced.  The baby is nine or ten months old now. She almost lost her life after giving birth.

Somehow we lost touch and when we finally reconnected she told me she has a new boo thang.

I mind you, at the time she told me they had been together for at least six months.  She moved him into her home about four months into their relationship.

Everything seemed to be going great and she was so in love, calling him a real man. I was so happy for her.

Now, two months later Journey* tells me she is pregnant again, he is becoming abusive and talks about her behind her back. She she put him out again.

My question is how do I tell her she needs to slow tf down and stop moving these niggas in her home after knowing them a short time?

Stop letting these dudes have relations with you unprotected.

Having these babies back to back can give her real deal health issues. Because she isn't letting her body heal properly.

I love Journey* like she is my sister. Sould I feel or keep it to myself and be there for her?

I don't want to lose our friendship. But it is a pattern going on. I hate to see her continue this pattern.

What should I do?

From,

Justice*

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Dear Justice*,

Your concern for Journey* is a blessing. You're a great friend who is very concerned, as you should be.

Journey* has many issues that needs attention. So, I will go through them each one as I feel they need addressed.

💟Journey* is a mom, so she feels that she needs a partner to help raise those five, almost six, children. Women (and men)  can raise children on their own. She can be a strong single mother. I know many single moms and also single dads. They do just fine. Of course more kids is a bigger responsibility, but Journey* knows this.

💟Moving a person in your home that your in a relationship with is a huge step. Not only is this man in a relationship with Journey*, he is also in one with her children.

Her latest boyfriend started to abuse her. She didn't know this when she moved him in. He could have abused her children, she didn't know this man well enough to play house.

If Journey* keeps going in this pattern she will get a man who won't stop the abuse and who won't leave. He can be a sexual predator or anything. She has daughters and sons who can easily be touched without her knowledge. TRUST ME, it happened to my son when six and I had no clue until after my fiance had been dead almost five years. I knew this man and was with him for seven years. So we don't fully know everything.

💟Journey* has soon to be six children who look up to her and watches her every move. Her children will think this is normal behavior. They will grow up with this mindset.