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I had three friends, one of them being very close to me and the other two still close enough. We were great friends throughout seventh and eighth grade, but at the beginning of ninth grade, they started ignoring me.
I thought it was just a phase, that they'll get over it. But, my best friend told me they don't like me anymore they confessed this to her. My best friend isn't lying because I know they do this kind of thing. She made me swear I won't tell them I know.
I was devastated because they always use me for notes and studies, and I always let them. It was so easy for them not to like me anymore.
It's been a while and they now talk to me very less, unlike before. I made no attempt to talk to them after I found out, and I'm continuing to do so. Even though it has been some time it still hurts and I don't know what to do.
Please give me your advice on this.
Signed, Violet*
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Dear Violet*,
Thanks for writing to me for advice about the problem with your friends. It seems you have a lot going on with these ex-friends of yours. Firstly, I want to say that how they're acting is not because of you. This isn't your fault! You say they typically do this, so this says a lot about their character.
I highly recommend you stop sharing all notes and studies. Basically, they're making you do all the work and they're using you. At the end of the school year, they will look like fools when they don't know what to do.
They are the ones who have lost a true friend, you lost fake people who can't be trusted. I wouldn't waste my time on them all. If you want to confront them on it just simply tell them that their actions tell you everything you need to know.
This will hurt because in your mind you thought you had great friends, but they weren't. I would focus my time and energy with your actual true friends. In time the 'old friends’ will realize what a wonderful friend they walked away from.
Keep your heads up, and keep being the amazing person you've always been. Remember, this is your gain and their loss and is not your fault!
