Dear Boo

🌈Coming Out🌈

Dear Boo,

First off, sending lots of love and I hope you're doing wonderful!

Second, I have a bit of an issue. Lately, my family has been having a lot of problems.

I mainly live with my sister, but every other week I stay with my mom.

Here's some backstory on my family: My sister is 21. My brother is seven, he has autism and is deaf, he also struggles with gaining weight so he looks 3. Sorry, for my messy life! My mother works part-time as a CNA and my dad has a girlfriend plus a new baby; my parents are divorced.

Well, my dad is extremely mean to my mom, I don't like it. He's always making my mom cry because he tells her that she's a bad mom to me and my brother.

I find it unfair, as she is trying her best like I know she is. She is quite scary at times. She screams at me a lot, cause me worthless and tells me she never wanted me.

I want my dad to leave my mom alone, but she won't confront him so I feel the need to. How should I go about doing this?

We go back to her house in two weeks again, and I'm scared. What makes the situation worse is, there's also a big secret I've been keeping from them. I can't find a good time to tell them my secret.

💙💜💚I'm Gay!!💚💜💙

How should I confront my dad about being mean to my mom? He's also quick to snap as well, he's extremely mean to my brother. Also, if you can, how do I tell them both that I'm gay?

Sincerely Yours,

Alex*

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Dear Alex,

Firstly, thank you for writing in me with this heavy of a topic. I took time and slept on how I need to respond to this.

Secondly, I'm so proud of you for having the courage to tell your parents who you truly are. That takes strength.

Okay as far as your mom...

She should definitely NOT treat you like this. You are NOT worthless! You are so incredibly wonderful. What your mom is doing to you is technically abusing you emotionally. You don't see it because you love your mom. I understand your dad saying what he says to her because she's wrong for saying things like this to you. But, he's also in the wrong for speaking to her that way. That is also an example of emotional abuse.

I don't know your story of why you live with your sister. If it's by choice or because your mom does not have custody of you. Her home doesn't seem like it's a safe environment for you, nor your brother.

Your brother has two special needs, so it takes someone with love and patience to take care of him and raise him. You didn't say if he lives with your mom, your dad or there with you and your sister. Based on this, I really hope he lives with your sister.

Your dad has no right being mean to your brother just because he has special needs. Autistic children are so wonderful and they need more love and respect than others. Plus, him being deaf he needs constant care.