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*WARNING: This letter deals with racism, homophobia, transphobia, and the views of a racist jackass. (Sorry, not sorry) 😏🤷🏻♀️
You're more than welcome to voice your opinions, give advice, and tell your story if y'all have dealt with this . Y'all know I'm 100% against all things listed in the warning, I have no filter most times, and I keep it 💯. Sooo, this letter may get intense with my response. I don't plan out what I will write, everything just comes to me as I'm writing. Kick back, my loves, this will be a long one!
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Dear Boo,
(First message)
My husband, Kyle*, and I have nothing in common and it's to the point that I think our differences are too great. Especially since they are on important topics in my opinion. We made the mistake of getting married too fast and I should have waited until I knew all these things.
I really don't know what to do. You can message me on here or share it in your book.
I just need someone to talk to who isn't family or friends because I don't want them to judge some of the topics that bother me.
(Second message)
I figured it would be more useful for you to know what exactly is going on so I'm going to elaborate more than I did last night. I was going to bed also lol so I kept it pretty vague. Everything that I am going to share with you he and I have discussed on multiple occasions. Some things have changed others have not. These are not really things that can have compromises, which seems to be the main issue.
First, I am biracial (black and white) and my husband is white. This topic is going to have a lot within it. When I met him I ASSUMED he was not racist or prejudiced because why would you be with someone of another race if you were?
He doesn't want me to listen to rap music and has called it "ni**er music". I'm not exaggerating. He literally called it that and even has said on one occasion that I was being a ni**er for listening to it.
First off the fact that he feels it's okay to use the word ni**er boggles my mind. I can't even type it out because I cannot stand the word so much. He tries to say that it means uneducated or ignorant, but I don't care what it means. It shouldn't come out of anyone's mouth in regards to another human being. In my opinion at least.
He knew before we were married that I listened to rap music and not once did he say that he had an issue with it. I respect his decision to not want to hear it so I don't listen to it with him present, but he doesn't want me to listen to it at all. Rap is what's wrong with black people etc etc.
Side note: I have explained to him why the use of the n-word is hurtful to me and that I don't want him to use that word. He doesn't say it very often anymore.
This topic right here already makes me want a divorce because I just don't know how to be with someone who dislikes another race. He says he isn't racist, but how is he not?
