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Two years ago I sexted my boyfriend. He sent the pictures to his friends and we broke up because of that. Today, we recently reconnected and are together again.
I am at a loss because my Mom is not happy with this boy. She refuses to drive me to meet him anymore because he would cancel plans at the last minute.
I want my Mom to be happy for me, but she seems disappointed and upset. When she found out she said, “Do what you want. If you want to go through this nightmare ten times, it's up to you. I'm not going to stop you, you're old enough to make your own decisions.”!
I'm at a loss. I feel like I have to choose between my Mom and my boyfriend. What should I do?
–Peyton*–
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Dear Peyton*,
Hey dear, thanks for asking for my advice about the situation with your Mom and boyfriend.
Something as serious as showing off private pics is something I take seriously. It is a serious violation of privacy and isn't okay! Is he (and you) aware that any pics sent or kept of ANYONE (even yourself) under the age of 18 I considered child pornography?
What he did was a MAJOR violation of your trust. Sharing anyone's price photos is a cruel form of bullying and sexual harassment.
If anyone is pressuring or forcing, their partner to send explicit pics or sent – this is a form of digital and sexual abuse.
I understand why your Mom's upset. She wants what is best for you, and doesn't want you hurt. I fully believe people can change and grow up, but take a look at your relationship and ask yourself if your boyfriend has changed for the better.
He is canceling on you at the last minute. He's hurt you extremely in the past. Is this behavior repetitive? Do you think he's respectful towards you?
I think your Mom said that because we know our children will do anything regardless of how their parents feel about it. It's a rebellious teenage stage, everyone does it. The more we beg our kids not to do something, the more they wanna do it. She wants you to realize on your own that you deserve the best, and to be treated with respect. From how she said what she did, it sounds like he didn't only hurt you once. It happened many times, didn't it?
Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Think if your Mom had a boyfriend who treated her exactly like this… Would you be okay with her dating someone like that? Would you be silent? Would you take her to meet him if he kept canceling on her and hurting her?
Always remember your worth! Never settle for less. If you do want this relationship with your boyfriend then ask yourself if you have forgiven him for the past. If you do, start over with a clean slate. Have him earn your trust and respect.
I hope things get better for you. I do advise against sexting, not just for you but for anyone reading this. You never know what happens once you hit 'send’!
Love Always, Boo
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