Dear Boo

👑Self Confidence 👑

💕Dear Boo,

Hey Boo – my name is Paisley*. I have been struggling a lot with my self-confidence because of my past.

All my life I have been struggling.

I have had eleven (11) different surgeries. It sometimes makes me feel like a freak.

I've been called transgender before due to one surgery.

Then due to another surgery, someone told me that they ‘hope it kills me’.

One surgery I had the doctors told me I wouldn't be able to have kids. I just feel like it hasn't been fair.

It makes me feel like no one will ever date me or be friends with me because I'm so different. There have been times when I wish I was never born.

I just feel so useless, like I don't have a purpose in this world. I could really use some advice about my situation. If you can, please help me.

💕Paisley*—

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❣Dear Paisley*,

To begin with, this is to you as well as everyone! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being transgender. Nothing at all! So to my, cupcakes (readers) Paisley* wasn't shading anyone who is trans.

Okay — moving on.

Goodness, eleven surgeries is just..wow! I can definitely understand your struggles. But realize that those surgeries saved your life.

Unfortunately, we all live in a world where looks matter. I don't care if someone has one eye, a unicorn horn (is that what they're called 🤔) and a snout for a nose. I like people based on what is on the inside. I don't factor in beauty, race, gender, sexuality. If you're beautiful inside, then you're beautiful outside.

If people's looks were based on how they treated others and their personality, I think this world would be much more interesting. 😂

I understand that you were hurt when someone called you transgender. It meant that you looked like the opposite sex. I'm sure that would hurt anyone's feelings. If someone came up to me and asked if I was a man... Well, firstly I would look down at my huge boobs and ask if they're blind. Secondly, I would blow them a kiss and tell them to keep guessing. Where you struggle with your self-image and self-confidence, I understand why you were hurt.

I'm very sorry to hear that you're not able to have kids. Did the doctor remove your reproductive organs? If not, there are always options.

One, there's always the unknown. My husband was told he course have kids due to an injury when he was a kid to his..man region. We now have four kids. My best friend was told she couldn't have kids due to many reasons, many surgeries being one, and she now has a ten-year-old adopted daughter and a five years old son she gave birth to.

Two, you can always freeze your eggs. You can use a surrogate if you choose to go this route.

Three, there are SO many babies and kids who need a loving family. An adoption is always an option.

You're at the age where you are starting to think of your future. So I'm sure this is on your mind.
Life isn't fair honey. It seems like it definitely hasn't been to you.

You have survived because you are strong, tough and a fighter. You have a purpose in this life. Keep going until you find what your purpose is, Paisley*.