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I know I may come across bratty in this, but please keep in mind, there are way too many factors. If I said everything, this will be a novel.
I don't like my dad's boyfriend, Brandon's* parents. I'm a very quiet person and keep to myself, they are not. They give me a lot of anxiety.
My dad is bringing me to his house at noon on Christmas, so I can spend time with him and Brandon*...and also Brandon's* family.
Long story short, I have to go because of social pressures. It's very scary, please help.
Love, Jeon*
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Dear Jeon*,
First off, I want you to know that you are NOT alone! There are 200,000 cases of social anxiety that is reported in the US alone. This is not counting other countries and the cases that are not reported.
Secondly, you are NOT bratty, at all. Any type of anxiety is a major disorder, so don't downplay it. This is serious. I have anxiety myself, just not social anxiety. Which, I don't put myself in situations with a lot of people, so actually I'm unsure.
When it comes to being anxious or nervous, the key factor to control everything is your breathing. Have you ever heard of the power of 6?
Breathe in and hold it for 4 seconds, then exhale for 4 seconds.
Your breathing technique can help a lot in situations.
Also, sit down with your Dad, and maybe Brandon* if you're close with him as well, and let them know what you're going through. A lot of teens won't talk to their parents because they think we as parents won't understand.
Almost every teen forgets that every parent was once a teenager. We've been through many of the same things you all experience as well.
Knowing that you can let your Dad know when you want to leave the room can also help your mind. It helps by letting your brain cells know that you're not trapped there.
If things become too overwhelming for you, go to a room where you can be alone and breathe. Tell your demons (your social anxiety) that YOU are in control. Go outside for a break, taking in the scenery and fresh air can also help. It will allow your mind to escape.
Social Anxiety during Holidays is the worst and normally occurs more often because you are surrounded by more people. Even though it is people who love you, they are still extra people in a small space. Holidays can be truly overwhelming.
Below I will post some pics with some tips. Use these tips and remember, this is just for a coup ofle hours. Take breaks when needed and number one, always take care of yourself.
If I was in your position, I would sit down and let your Dad and Brandon* know what is going on. Right now they have no idea and they can't help if they don't know.
Best of luck tomorrow and a very Merry Christmas to you and your family.
Love Always, Boo♥
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