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Dear Boo,
You can call me Butterfly. I've read your book and I think what you're doing is helping so many people.
I have a question. What do you do when your friends hate you, they call you a freak and your family doesn't care either?
My friends don't like me because I'm anti-social, but what they don't know is that my parents don't want me to socialize.
I've read your book about abusive parents, and this is what I want to say: I'm fine with the beatings they give, but I'm not sure they love me. They say things like "my hands are itching to slap you," and "go to Hell," and other stuff I don't want to remember.
Every little thing they do to me, I will throw out my anger in school, staying away from friends and having a fierce temper. I know it's wrong, but deep down, I'm filled with immense hatred and bitterness. What's worse, my parents are respected people in our community so everyone seems to think I'm fine and all.
I feel like it's my parent's fault. Am I wrong? How can I make friends if this is how my life goes every day?
I thought about suicide but I'm still contemplating on how to die in the fastest and less painful way. Poison seems best don't you think? I just drink it, right? I just don't know how to purchase it without raising suspicions.
Thank you and sorry to bother you. Butterfly*
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Dear Butterfly*,
Hi, sweetie. Thank you for writing to me about these heavy topics that you're dealing with. It's not easy to speak up sometimes, so I can tell how courageous you are. I'm truly sorry that you have to deal with parents like this and friends who don't understand. I'll go through your later from beginning to end so I can touch every paragraph.
Let me tell you something, love, true friends don't hate their friends and they definitely don't call them names like "freak"! True friends are the ones you can talk to about anything. They love, support, and cherish you. These people you're referring to are not true friends. They seem rude and judgmental to me. Some advice about them—don't give them too much information about yourself; they can and will use the info against you. If they say this to your face, I wonder what they say behind your back? You deserve to have better friends than these people.
It's okay to be antisocial. I'm anti-social as well, and at times have social anxiety. Crowds make me feel smothered sometimes and I tend to stay away from new people.
Reading the sentence, “I'm fine with the beatings they give me” made me sad. No one should be okay with any form of abuse. They are emotionally and physically abusive—that is not okay! It's sad that they have made your mind think this is okay and acceptable. This isn't how a family should be, and you deserve to have a family who loves you.
