Dear Boo

🤬An Abusive Relationship🤬

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This submission is about abuse, if you are triggered by this topic, please read at your own discretion!
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💔Dear Boo,

My name is, Jaclyn* and I use to be in an abusive relationship with a girl named, Mya*.

During the relationship she cut my arm, pushed me down the stairs and left me outside for 30 minutes. She called my mom a bitch, a whore and ugly. Mya* even brags about abusing her grandma.

After she locked me out of the house, she apologized and we had sex.

Afterwards, I didn't hear from her for 5 weeks. When Mya* finally called me she told me her phone was off during that time.

One month later, we got into an argument. She threatened to kill me and called me a, 'dumb fuck'.

I dumped her, it's been 2 years since we have talked. Now I hear she is engaged and for some reason...I want her back. Please help, I don't know what to do.

From,

Jaclyn*

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♥Dear Jaclyn*,

To begin with, I want to tell you how strong you are for walking away from an abusive relationship. Whether it is physical or emotional, that is amazing and shows how much you love yourself.

You don't miss Mya*, you miss the good parts of your relationship. Now that she is engaged you are thinking of all the positive attributes of her. Right now, I want you to think of the negative.

-Do you miss how if felt when that knife cut your arm? NO.

-Do you miss the fear and pain you felt as you were tumbling down those stairs? HELL NO.

-Did you enjoy hearing her call your mom derogatory names? I think NOT.

You don't miss her sweetheart, you miss the comfort of someone caring about you. Honestly, Mya* never cared about you. You don't harm the person you love. Abusers don't love their victims (I hate that word), they love the power they hold over them.

You don't need back in that relationship honey. What would tell your mom if she was in an abusive relationship?

A way to begin healing is to forgive Mya*, but never forget. It's not forgiveness for her, it's forgiveness for you. I'm not sure if you realize it but you hold resentment towards her, as you should. Forgiving those who hurt us is a step in healing ourselves. That burden is off us so we can begin to heal.

As for her abusing her grandma, this need a reported! You can report adult abuse and neglect anonymously to local Department of Health Services, as well as police. This is illegal and immoral, not to mention seriously fucked up.

To all readers:
Abuse is NEVER okay! It is NOT a form of love. If anyone is I'm am abusive relationship, please talk with me. I will help you get out the best way I can. It doesn't have to be a romantic relationship. Abusive relationships happen between friends, parents & children, teachers & students. But what matters most is... IT IS NOT OKAY!!!

Abuse happens to men and women, the abusers are both men and women. Children, teens and adults are abused. Sex and age doesn't matter in the eyes of an abuser.