Dear Boo

🦉Missing My Abusive Ex🦉

Dear Boo,

Hi, I am writing to you again with another situation in my life. After breaking it off with my boyfriend, I recently found myself trying to win back my abusive ex-girlfriend. I don't know what's wrong with me, please don't think I'm crazy. Of course, I don't miss the abuse in general, but her beauty and smile.

I, of course, told my mom about this, however, it didn't end well. My mom threatened to kick me out of the house if she ever saw me trying to communicate with my ex again.

Although this hurts me, I keep trying to use my friend to get through to my ex as much as possible.

I'm at a loss of what I should do. Can you please help me?

Thanks,
Peyton*

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Dear Peyton*,

I want to begin by deeply apologizing to you. Somehow I didn't write your name on my list of letters, and you got skipped over. Anytime I am sent a letter I write everyone's name in my notebook I use to write and answer the letters—something like an index. Well, when I received your letter I responded to you but failed to write your name down. I went in my inbox to find a book and noticed your letter. I am so sorry for this mistake, it was not intentional at all. If anyone has sent me a letter and it's not been posted (I'm backed up from letters sent on June 1st), please send me a reminder. Or, if you want to know what spot your letter is, message me for that as well.

Moving on—thank you for writing to me again, I appreciate you a lot. Y'all may remember Peyton*, she wrote in a couple of times before about this abusive ex-girlfriend and about her ex-boyfriend who sent her private pictures to his friends.

I remember when I was a teenager my mom would say, “you'll understand when you're older” or, “you'll understand when you're a mother”, and I hated that. I probably sassed her by saying ”whatever” and rolled my eyes. Sorry, Mama! But now that I'm older and a mother, I understand.

The reason I mentioned that is because that's one thing I'm going to tell you. You will understand why your mom said that when you're older and (if you want to) when you have children.

As a Mom, our priority is keeping our children out of harm, no matter their age! I understand missing the good things about your ex-girlfriend. It's very rare that abusers change their ways. If you went back to her things would be the same sooner or later.

Do you miss the pain you felt when her fist hit you? Of course not! Do you miss the sharp heartache you felt when she spit offensive words towards you? Absolutely not! When you think of her smile, think about how many tears you cried over her. When you think of her beauty, remember the bruises she left on your beautiful face and body. You deserve much better than her!

I'm not saying that to be rude or to be a bitch, I'm reminding you of that because you never deserved the hell she put you through. I think you need closure to fully let her go.