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Sooo, I'm kind of a mess. This is gonna be long, I'm sorry.☹️
I don't have a hard life or any big issues, so I know I'm just being overdramatic. I'm sorry to waste your time. Also, I don't know how you're supposed to help or say anything to this, but I like you and I think your advice book is awesome. So here's my issue–
I'm crushing on this guy Aaron*. I'm at Aaron* online on Wattpad, we have a lot in common so we became friends. He's a year older than me and lives in America, I live in Ireland.
Anyway – my problem is, he has helped me a lot with my problems and stuff, so I started to like him. I have a huge crush on him now. I like his personality, how helpful he is, and caring. It doesn't really matter what he looks like. I have seen his face and he's not my usual type, but that doesn't matter, I love his personality.
One day he told me he has a crush on me and I told him I also had a crush on him back, but that's it! We just talk and act his friends still because that's all we are. I like him and he says he likes me, but we can't really be together as he lives across the world. She, do I have to pretend like I don't like him?
Also, more problems related to Aaron*... he likes to role-play (me too), but recently he has been doing romantic role plays with other girls and it's really freaking me out. I'm not jealous, I'm friends with and I'm not at all angry with the girl he was role-playing with. I'm not mad or anything with him. I'm not mad or angry, just sad. Now 100% understand that role-playing is playing a role (duh) and that the things you do aren't real or mean anything, so why does it upset me? I don't want to stop their roleplay, and if he stopped because of me I never forgive myself. I don't understand why it makes me really sad. Am I a psychopath?
this made me feel like a really awful, annoying, controlling, and terrible friend. Am I?
~Aphmau*
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Dear Aphmau*,
Thank you for writing to me about your issues with Aaron*. It's very understandable why you're feeling different emotions over this. I'll go through your letter from beginning to end so things will be addressed in order.
It seems like you developed a crush on Aaron* because he knows the deepest side of you and cares about you. An emotional connection goes so much deeper than a physical connection. I think when two people meet over the internet that's what happens, that's why his looks don't matter to you. I think this shows your “type” doesn't matter, you looked in his heart and soul and found someone you like.
You and Aaron* have both admitted you like each other, but I do think that distance is an important issue. The distance can put a strain on a relationship, especially when you're both young and countries apart. You're both aware of your feelings, but you know that the probability of meeting one another is very low. So Aaron* may not want to take a chance of running the close friendship you to have built. Remember, friendship is better than a failed relationship.
When it comes to roleplaying I don't know much. I understand the concept of it, but why someone would role play romantically I don't understand. Not many people realize this, but smut roleplay is basically sexting. It is illegal for underage people to do! Don't worry, I won't preach about that haha. I see roleplaying as writing and an art form in its own way, especially if you have original characters.
I think it upsets you because in your heart you envision yourself with Aaron*. When you see him talking this way with another girl you think of it as him cheating (yes even though you're not together). My question is, how can someone care about a person then act romantically with another girl?
No, you're not a psychopath at all! You're simply human. If it keeps being a problem try to talk with Aaron* about it or try to find a way not to read his role plays. Have you thought about trying to do a romantic role play with him?
Trust me, I think I know you pretty well since we first started talking. I know for a fact that you're not awful, annoying, controlling, nor terrible! You're a wonderful, sweet, caring, and beautiful person. You have been a great friend to me! Keep your head up and message me anytime you need to talk.
Love Always, Boo
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