I want someone to respect me. Respect is the biggest thing for me. Respect my limits, respect my dislikes, respect me as a woman.
I want a gentleman. To open the door for me, to let me sit down first, or pull the chair out for me. Do extra stuff for me in general. To pay the bill sometimes... or most times haha. Not because of the money but because that's the way he is. I'll accept paying the first few months of dating because of the relationship build up, but I'll expect more later on. But if he does it from the beginning it'll be much better.
Someone who puts effort into the relationship. I'm all in and I expect the other person to be all in from the beginning. Not crazy in love but like making the effort to get to know me.
I want someone to love me the same way I love.
Do extra stuff for me, to show me you care. To have the same love language, which is words of affirmation and gifts. I value those things a lot.
I want him to be open emotionally... I won't take an avoidant person. I want our conflict resolution to be the same type. I resolve conflict by talking it out right away, so I want him to have that.
I want someone honest, but not rough. I don't like blunt men, (unless they're making a sarcastic joke, then I'll approve it). Like just know when to be brutally honest and when to be regular honest.
I want someone with the same silly sense of humour as me. Or at least a similar sense of humour. I don't want you to impress me with made-up jokes... just being silly and intrepid is enough. Unless you're good at making the type of jokes I like which are stupid and non offensive.
Oh and someone sarcastic lol. I love sarcasm. If you can take sarcasm and roast me back I'm gonna love you.
I want someone who doesn't make me feel stupid. I want someone who praises me, who sees the good in me.
I want someone who won't judge me for my past. Or who won't judge me in general. Unless I need the judgment then I'll take it.
I want someone who has a solid spiritual foundation. To know what he's doing. Because I don't want to mother anyone anymore, I want him to be a man...
I don't want to worry too much about him, I want him to give me the reassurance that he has things under control. I want a reassuring and secure man.
I think what I want the most is stability. I want to be stable, and I want him to be stable too.
I want and need a stable family. I want the stability I didn't have growing up.
I want him to be close with his family. To talk good things about them.
I want him to speak good about others and not judge or complain... complainers aren't good, I'll make sure to change that about myself too.
Also no toxicity. No drama. No child games or mind games. I want a serious relationship.
I won't accept a man who's unsure of himself. Who questions himself... who doesn't trust in his own decision making.
I want an extrovert man, but he also has to have time for me so there is a balance.
I want him to have a life outside of me and not get anxious when I'm going about my life... I want us both to sincronice our lives.
I want someone who isn't so dependent on me. I want my space sometimes and I want someone who likes his own space sometimes too.
I won't do pda... and no lip kisses during the relationship. I will only hold hands, accept cheek kisses or forehead kisses, and hugs. Appropriate hugs only. And cuddling has to be done very limitedly. We can only sit next to each other and he can hug my waist. He can caress my face. But I want absolutely no sexual undertones. No thigh touching, no butt touching, no suggestive comments, nothing. I'm not gonna risk a relationship like that again. I absolutely want a clean relationship.
I want my relationship to be spiritual, mental, intellectual... I want us to match in our spiritual goals. I want us to learn constantly about each other and I want him to teach me more about Jehovah or anything he's learned.
I really really want someone who's a deep thinker. I am a deep thinker myself, I like to analyze people, situations or things, and I want someone who has that same insight.
I want someone who understands where I'm coming from. Someone who understands me.. or someone who is caring and loving enough to do his very best to understand me and help me. Like Tanya.
I want someone who's warm... someone who's warm but masculine at the same time. I find that sometimes being too warm takes away the masculinity but it doesn't have to be that way.
I really want someone who includes others... not just me. Someone kind... that is very important to me. I don't want a jerk. I want someone who includes my family. Who includes my sister.
I want a real man...
And I want him to be handsome too. I don't know but there are people you feel immediately attracted to and people that take time to feel attracted to. I want someone I can feel attracted to immediately.
I want a modest man... no tight clothes please. Please, it ruins the masculinity.
I want someone who doesn't expect so much of me in terms of makeup and hairstyles. I can get fancy but don't expect me to be one of those girls who have that full on make up routine in the morning and who dress like boss women. I'm not Priyanka Chopra. I want a man that likes simple. A man that values natural beauty.
And above all things, I want a spiritual man. A man who loves Jehovah more than me, a man who calls me out.
And that is all I want😂.
