"I think people today gloss over the importance and significance of a romantic partner, one whom you'd ideally look to spend your life with" —a TikTok commenter on a post about platonic love being pure and great.
IM SORRY?? ligit I replied hc I had stuff to sayyyyy.
Are they with us, like in our society? If not I wanna go where they are if amatonormativity doesn't exist there.
Like, yes tjeres people who are putting value on platonic love and saying it's just as important as romantic love and some even say it's more important to them. (It's more important to me but I wouldn't make it as a universal statement. And if I ever do fall in love romantically it will become as important) but like, it's kinda uncommon for people to prioritize platonic love. There's people who say it's important, but still think it's less.
It's far more likely to get commets about romantic love on a post about platonic love than the other way around. And if there is a platonic love comment on a romantic love post, if usually isn't degrading.
People will talk about platonic love and get comments like "that's just a friendship" just making it seem like it's lacking something or "good luck babe" if it's two girls or "wait until it gets romantic/he catches feelings" if it's a boy and a girl and "historians will call them best friends/roomates" if it's two guys.
People don't comment/say to romantic couples "just a romantic relationship" "we know you're secretly platonic" "wait until it turns platonic"
People "glossing over the importance of a romantic partner" isn't a common thing for one and two, I don't know about other people but I only do it as a push back. People gloss over platonic love and want it to turn romantic so I put more love into platonic love bc other people don't.
And this "spend your life with" phrase has been starting to really bug me. You can spend your life with multiple people in multiple ways.
Even after you get married, you still have friends and family. Just bc you don't live together/have kids together doesn't mean you're not sharing/spending your life with them. Just bc you're don't building a home together and starting a family together doesn't mean you're not spending your life with other people. And you can build your life in multiple ways. I'd argue that creating memories with people is a part of building your life. Creating a buisness with your friends, married or not, is building your life with people.
People don't gloss over romance. They gloss k er everything else bc of Romance/amatonormativity.
My response, if you're curious, was "are you paying like, attention? That's all people say is important or most important. People prioritizing platonic love/friendship or simply just saying platonic love is important isn't as common as people saying/thinking a romantic relationship is most important" and I also said something about how you can spend your life with multiple people.
So yea. It's almost 4am. I have to wake up early tomorrow to go to church when I'm not even religious (I have to go bc of my grandma). I kinda have a headache. So tomorrow is going to be a thing.
It's fine. I'll be fine.
So thank you for listening to my little rant. I hope you all have a wonderful day/night. Take care 💚💜
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